Yes Steph, I have told her that I can't know what really turns her on if she doesn't know herself. That to me is pretty sad after all these years of marriage. That is why this is so upsetting to me. I would do anything that she wants to try but when I want to try something she makes me feel so dirty for wanting to try something different. I thought marriage was give and take. I give and she takes but she just doesn't seem to care. Do you think a conselor would help. I just don't see how she could talk to someone else if she can't open up to me. Hepl me please understand. Thanks