Is this a sexless marriage or a loveless one? If your spouse is unable to perform for whatever reasons (be they emotional or physical) that is one thing but if they consciously choose not to despite knowing you need it then sex is the least of your problems. There is no justification for going behind someone's back. If sex is the only issue then that can be resolved (by a doctor, by agreeing to a open relationship, by a therapist, etc.) but I have a feeling it's way deeper than that.

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