I agree with you on that point Lilith, however (and at the risk of straying from the topic), I think there needs to be a change in the support/visitation system. If a man is responsible for the creation of a child he is responsible for supporting that child. I also would hope he would do his best to be a father for the child and not just a paycheck. In cases where he is not given that opportunity because the mother decides she doesn't want to tell him about the child (until, say, 10 years down the road) I don't believe he should be financially responsible at that point, unless he wants to be. In this scenario he was not given the choice of being a father for those ten years so he should not be charged support for that time. Given a case where the mother believes the father's involvement in the life of the child would be harmful then she names him as the father and has the court limit his access.

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