I don’t do Emmett Kelly. So it’s not a joke when the real world steps on somebody from our village. What Murphy gave you is a hell of a good direction and starting point.
Time does seem to be an issue so plan on doing something quick if you want to help you folks and it won’t hurt your own sanity to keep busy working on it. Take a big bag and a good sifter (your brain) to sort it all out.
So here’s some thought-pebbles you're welcome to stick in the corner of that sack.

We all meet dirt-balls every day, only your brother went with him and eventually to live with one only because of the dope. Doubt if he cared that much for the people.

I don’t do Clarence Darrell either. And I’m not sure if being berried in 20 ton or 50 tons of shit makes a difference, but
sounds a little much for any state. Check those facts closely. You’ll not find much worse than you’re working with now. May even be a ray of hope.

Doesn’t sound like you have time to learn the terrain, so getting a guide that’s been there makes sense to me.
Get the Padre, Frazier Crane or the Dolly-Lamma, anybody with a pillow that will soften your parents fall. Enlist anybody with stones-of-knowledge to throw at your parents dragon.
Might want to remember only you know your parents and what size rock fits your sling. Watch the mutual-admiration societies of head bobbers.

One thing for sure

(and stop this. I hate being serious):whiteghos

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