kendall... Bless you LOL... I believe that for the most part.. the men that are worth having look past the weight issue. Those that don't... well it is usually a sign that there are underlying issues in general and aren't the kind of man that I would be attracted to in the first place.

axe... I have noticed that I know that there are few "accurate" presentations of the gay/lesbian community... the only one that I can think of is "Queer As Folk". I watch it from time to time, and that show definetly shows that "being thin" is the only way to be in that life style. I am not naive enough to think for a moment that there aren't BBP that are gay/lesbian... and it is sad that on one of the few programs that "represents" their community they themselves are not represented.

Midnight Kiss... First let me say... Good for you!! A weight loss of any kind is something to be proud of... one of that amount should be applauded. I know first hand how hard it is to do.

Like Midnight Kiss, I personally happen to be more attracted to those men who are on the high (or higher) side of average. There is something to be said for the cuddling factor On the other side tho, I don't rule a potential mate out just because he happens to be thin. That would be doing exactly what I don't like having done to me.. judging strickly from the outside.

Oh yeah, I am a BBW... but I am not ashamed of it. Yes, it is true I am in the process of losing what I can (and winning)... but I know without a shadow of doubt in my mind that regardless to the weight issue, I am a absolutely fantastic woman with brains, humor, a heart capable of limitless love, and the bonus of a very strong sexual desire. Just so happens that I am also blessed with extra padding