It sounds like both of you are so busy concentrating on getting you ready that he's left just kinda hanging around. (bad pun, sorry) I've found it helps to not only talk as Aqua suggested but keep him hard by stroking him with your hand as he's working on you. And a few minutes before he tries to enter you, suck on his cock. If he started to soften this will bring him right back and if you're lubed you'll remain ready. Just concentrate on relaxing yourself. It's well worth the effort. Good luck.