This is the one question Ive had to answer so many times. I tell people essentially the same thing. It was just a sharp pinch initally, then it didnt hurt at all. On the way home from the piercer, I was periodocly checking myself to make sure it was still in. I swear I couldnt even tell it was any diffrent. It was a bit tender for the first month or two anytime I was messing around with the girl I was dating at the time. Aside from that Iv had no problems with it. Now on the other hand, when I had my tounge pierced it was faaaaar worse. The inital pain wasnt too bad, it did hurt more than my frenum did. But after the fact it was sooo much worse. The swelling, stinging and constant mouthwashing was almost too much to deal with.