What about a 69 with you both on your sides? I love this position so much! You got your hands along with your mouth to use and you can stop and go at will. We do this mostly for foreplay, but will take it all the way to orgasm for him if we feel like it.
I have also many times given him bj's to orgasm. He likes it if I use one of my vibes on myself while I give him a bj. Keeps me busy and excited which translates nicely through my mouth wrapped around his shaft.
Also, for me it's a very empowering and loving feeling to be able please my man and not expect anything in return. By you not allowing yourself to fully give in and enjoy the experience you are making your girl miss out on giving herself to you in this way and seeing you pleasured by her skill and effort. You know like the feeling you get when you have done good with your oral and have her cumming all over your face? She deserves to know that feeling too right?
Being a giving lover is wonderful and required in my opinion. But, a little selfishness and making sure you get what you desire is important too. In all things have balance.
