I have been caught a couple of times by my wife. Disapprovingly I should add. Once I even took her hand and put it on my cock but she pulled away.

I have masturbated using my wife's hand held by me while she was asleep. I even did this with my first wife. Can't figure if they new but neither pulled away nor actively helped.

I would love to do more mutual masturbation and also do it while watching my mate do herself but chances are really poor.

These attitudes towards digital and oral may just get to be enough to drive me off.

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