10-02-2005, 03:31 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2001
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Well you'd think if someone felt strongly, they'd try to work things out but often that is not the case. Although often the noisy ones are the ones who just go invisible til the next chance to stir up shit.
I've seen people leave in a bunch of different ways, some more explosive than others. Often they are upset with someone or with me, regarding a decision I've made. Some people make a big scene in order to attract attention. Some people simply have to give in to the demands of their lives and slip off quietly.
While I hate to lose touch with anyone, I can understand why people feel the need at times. I feel those same things at times. There are decisions made that I don't like and there are times when people hurt my feelings but as part of a community I understand that this whole place is bigger than me and my issues.
When people say they are "leaving", they mean not coming to the site, although I have found this to be patently untrue for the most part. Most "leavings" are symbolic. The people posting them want someone to know they are upset. Some have left to prove themselves to someone they care about.
I think many of us that have stuck around for a long time see these "leavings" as a need people have to take a break and regather their wits. Often the people are back soon enough and seem to have a better understanding that a community is made up of the sum of it's parts, not any one person makes a community whole. Our community is richer for the variety of people who come here. And in general we always welcome them back with open arms.
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