The problem most guys have on us sensitive ladies is they are giving us massages because we are tense is when we are tense, and you add that elbow it just causes us to tense up more and the muscle tries to protect itself from what it thinks is abuse. So it clenches tighter and becomes even MORE sensitive. At which point you get the, "okay, thats enough" bit.

Best advice I can give: Start with some warming massage oil, start with the light pressure of just smoothing it across her skin like you were applying lotion, slowly (and by slowly I mean every minute or so not every 5 seconds) increase the pressure and tell her to let you know when it gets to be too much. Chances are, you'll be tired before the pressure increases too much for her to take.

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