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Well what to say here. Well my older sister has always been jealous of me and acted out towards my parents by stealing money from them. The money was spare change that was for the newspaper milk etc. This was when she was only 12 and I was 8.

She ended up moving out coz she didn't like the way my parents told her that stealing was wrong. They didn't hit her or anything, they did what every parent does. They tried to work it out. I knew that she was stealing and she told me not to tell them. Now of course when there is only 2 kids in the house and they ask me if I was stealing the money and I say no, then it just a simple process of elimination. So they went after her and asked her again, which she of course lied about saying stuff like "it's not my fault you left the money out and can't remember where you left it." Also "well what do you expect to happen if you leave money just lying around?"

My parents tried to explain to her that stealing and lying are not good traits to have. My sister took it all the wrong way and moved out.

My parents are also the tough love type, which is a good thing, coz it shows the person that every action has an opposite and equal reaction. If you do something good or bad then there is always an outcome. Whether you like it or not.

Now my sister at the age of 32 still thinks that I am the favourite out of me and her. She only thinks that coz when I ask my parents for help or something they try and help me. Now they do the same for her but when she mistreats the help and they tell her off and she thinks that they are telling her off for the wrong reasons. Like what happened recently, she was living in Queensland near my parents house and my parents had bought a house for my sister, her husband and 6 kids. She couldn't keep the place clean and when my parents had enough of her and she moved out, they had to have the carpets replaced, the walls repainted and the landscaping done.

Then they had to put the house on the market to get there money back from fixing it up. Now my parents have washed their hands with her, and won't ever help her like that again. You don't bite the hand that feeds you.

Oh sorry lou I got a bit off track here. I think we all have a problem family member, the only advice I can give is what has already been given. But perhaps your mother should be seeing a counsellor or a shrink to help her through this. There is only so much you can do. The rest is up to her and if she really wants to make herself better then she will go see a shrink.