Although I can understand her stance and her feelings, and understand the fact that distance does cause serious problems in relationships, what she needs to really ask herself is if the love for her husband is to be overshadowed, by this man who is making her feel so complete.

Obviously, she loves her husband, if she didn't she wouldn't of married him, but what your friend needs to come to grips with is if its worth losing a loving, caring husband over, for something that isn't as established, isn't as sure-fire, and isn't as concrete as the man over seas, laying his head back at night in a barrack, thinking of his wife and kid at home...

Maybe I'm coming off as a bit of an a**hole, but this is a subject near and dear to my heart, since I have a brother overseas and he was involved in the same situation with his fiance. He went over, and she found someone else and broke his heart, because she couldnt live with the loneliness...

While I understand where these females are coming from, you must also understand that the vows you make during marriage are "till death do us part"...either that or till you get a good divorce lawyer...

You made a commitment to this man and if you are loyal and faithful, you should honor and stick by your man.

She must ask herself, how does her husband feel? Has she considered how lonely he must be? Has she considered how much he is probably dying to get home to her? What about her son? How is she going to explain to him, that while daddy was away, she found something she considers better. While it looks wonderful now, it may just lead to a big bucket of problems...

In the long run, is such a change, really worth all the damage that may potential come from it?

(Sorry if I came off as a complete asshole, so not something I wanted to do, or the impression I wanted to give off...SORRY! ...)