I'm curious as to what her reason is for not wanting to pleasure herself in front of you.
Mrs. WI gets very self-conscious...about her body, her movements, her noise, pretty much everything...when we're not BOTH in the heat of the moments together. I can kinda understand. I mean, to have me leering at you while you touch yourself must be unsettling. Not because I stare like a perv, but because you'd feel like I was soaking in every inch of your body, every scent that wafts to me, and every peep & moan that escapes your lips...and be judging you. I know it's not happening. You know, logically, that it's not happening. But that deep seeded fear surfaces when you're at your most vulnerable. When you're on display.
All I can say is reassure your wife that you love her and her body. That you can't help but react like a teenager when you see glimpses of her flesh. That she still now, and always has sparked your passion. And be sincere & honest about it. Saying things and doing things with the goal of getting something specific sexually is usually transparent, and only widens the divide. After 15 years of marriage, Mrs. WI finally knows (but doesn't understand why) that I love her body. Never, ever have I wavered in my opinion that she's incredibly sexy and turns me on. I don't have a reason to...it's true! She may not fathom why, but she believes it.
And yes, once in awhile she'll push my head away during cunnilingus to let me watch her bring herself to orgasm right in front of my afraid-to-blink-or-I'll-miss-something eyes.
So I wish you a happy & loving sex life with your wife, whom you obviously adore, and if she reaches that level of comfort & security...treasure it for what it represents emotionally as well as appreciate the incredible display of sexuality.
