Funny, when I was in my 20's ... it was always guys in their 30's that I went for ... now in my 40's .... funny thing ... it's been mainly guys in their 30's that I've dated ... not that I'm looking for guys that age, just seems to happen that way.

What attracts me ... of course there are the physical things that will catch my attention, but what holds my attention ... sense of humor, sense of intelligence, some common ground for discussion purposes .... and it sure helps if he's a reasonably nice guy as well.

Inner beauty/outer beauty .... yes inner beauty wins out very quickly for me ... I can't be attracted to someone for very long if I don't like who they are inside.

The first time I fell in love, it was with a guy who I had known for almost 10 years ... the first 4 or 5 years ... I could barely stand to be in the same room with him, the next couple of years we started to get comfortable with each other and became friends, then after years and years of knowing each other, one day I looked at him and knew that I was in love with him. Ultimately it didn't work between us, but he will always hold a part of my heart.

Age? Don't know, that I think of something specific, usually think of it in the context it is mentioned in during a particular conversation.

Absolutely the things I most dispise in others is also the stuff I most dispise in myself ... and I'm very aware of it.

Effect of age on sex drive ... I don't think it has to have an effect, but there is no question that hormones rise and fall with certain ages in the different sexes ... As I hit my 40's my sex drive became a much stronger factor in my life.

I'll skip over the last question ... I've dated younger, but sorry ... you're just a bit tooooo young for me .... and I'm definately way tooooo old for you! But, best of luck in finding what you are looking for!