Just wanted to comment on your thread..

It is important first of all to keep in mind that while it may be a wonderful thing for you to behold that she is obviously uncomfortable with it and I urge you to be careful not to push too hard on the subject or you will simply add to her mood on it.

Try some different approaches to it. Before you get her to do the act first work on her being able to open up to you. If you have been married for 26 years that tells me that she has grown up in an age where open blunt sexual dialogue is probably not something she experienced much and in fact society probably kind of condemned it.

Here is a suggestion. Set up a romantic night. Cook for her I don't care if it is something simple or not. Tell her you are treating her. Give her the full treatment. Put a tablecloth on the table (use a solid colored sheet if you have to). Put some candles out. If she drinks have a nice glass of wine or something she woudl enjoy. If not just use something non alcholic like the bubbly grape juice or any kind of spritzer. Make sure that the kids if you have them are gone for the night. Play some music but softly.

Don't let her do anything but sit at the table and eat. Fill her glass, serve her food, let your hands make soft glancing caresses as you do so. Put your hand on her shoulder for instance as you fill her glass. Stop on the way back up and lean into her and smell her hair for a moment. Don't tarry long you just want her to know that she is the center of your attention fully.

Don't be in a rush. Masterbate if you have to before all of this starts. You want to keep your arousal in check and you have to truly be genuinely intent on listening to her day and whatever she wants to talk about. Don't rush the dinner. If possible try to make it as if it was a first date and she is someone you haven't known for several years now.

After dinner rinse the dishes and don't let her clean off the table.

Pull her with you to the living room and ask her to dance with you. Put on slow music. Don't tell me you can't dance. All you have to do is hold her to you and move softly. Look into her eyes and tell her that you can't get her out of your mind. Kiss her softly and just take time to tell her every part of her that you love. As things naturally progresses take her to the bedroom and slowly undress her first. Constantly focus on her. Turn out all the lights save a candle or two that isn't close to the bed.

Now.. that the mood has been set... Lay her on her side and slide up right behind her. Tell her that you want to tell her what you have been thinking of. Softly touch her side and her thighs and even her stomach holding her close to you. You can sweep up to the bottom of the swell of her breasts but dont' touch the normal arousal zones.

Tell her you want to tell her of a fantasy that you have had of her. Make it any fantasy that doesn't involve her touching herself. Stay away from that topic. Be close enough so that she can feel the arousal of you but not so much that she feels you wanting to mount her from behind.

After you share your fantasy with her, now ask her to close her eyes and tell you of the last time she thought of you and what her sexual fantasy was. Listen and gently caress her sides as she tells you. Never let your fingers drift past her waist and tops of her thighs. If all goes well then as she tells you and begins to share her own hand will begin to drift lower. If it doesn't even after she has told you her desires then whisper in her ear that you want to know just where to touch her. Forget that you have known her for all these years. Ask her to show you exactly where to touch her. Slide your hand over hers and move it lower and lower and then let your fingers stay on top of hers.

Allow your fingers to caress ontop of hers.. Pay very close attention to how she caresses, how much pressure she uses, about how long she stays on her clit and then moves away etc. Allow her to get more and more aroused. As she begins to get closer and closer slide your hand up to caress her breasts and play with them. Kiss her neck and tell her how beautiful she is. At no time tell her how much playing with herself is turning you on but focus instead on how much she is turning you on. Focus your words describing her body instead of her actions.

Hopefully with all these things she will be able to let go and finish herself with your help of course. Hopefully the more you share and more you can spend time with her in situations like this the more she will become open with her body.

I hope it works for you and most of all just remember that if she isn't comfortable then she is never going to be aroused. Keep that in mind and the mindset here is to make her more comfortable with her sexuality first and then the actions itself later.

Hope it helps and again this is just my own two cents.

/bow

Zeph