I also have a family member with some personal problems that have caused more than their fair share of ripples in the family. I've seen the toll it's taken on my parents and grandmother. I've tried to help him, as a good big brother should, only to have it come crashing back on me.

Sometimes, despite our best hopes and intentions, family member's problems are beyond our ability to do more than listen and continue to give advice. There are days I feel like a Pez dispenser of advice... but I digress! With his problems, alcohol related, he needs better help than I am able to give. While I can point him in the direction of those who can help, it requires some admission of a problem on his part (and those who are enabling him) for him to tak that next step. Perhaps, in a similar sense, your sister would benefit from some more professional help?

I wish you luck with your sister and hope that some of this may be of use to you.

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Best regards,

Naz