It's easy to be an enabler when you are emotionally involved. When you say don't cry to me then you let them, it's enabling. It's also called loving someone. The lines get so blurry and the cycle never ends. I think the thing to remember is that some people thrive on being the star of drama. They are most in their glory when their applecart is upset and they are scurrying after the apples. "I told you so" is helpful to no one and some may see it as self-righteous, so I avoid any of that sort of thing.

I still give the advice, I don't get wrapped up in the drama and then I help them pick up a few apples and tell them I love them still but they need to clean up the mess.

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If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
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