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I could use some feedback/advice....
It's pretty personal though so.........
I just need someone to listen I guess. Thanks. |
Whatcha need, RandyGal?
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PM me anytime if you like RandyGirl
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Thanks you guys.
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I don't know why but for some reason this is hard to talk about.
Do any of you have partners who refuse to try ANYTHING different? After all these years I can NOT talk hubby into doing anything EXCEPT quickie missionary sex. :( We had *The Talk* again today and he crinkled his nose at me and said "I don't think I can DO that!" All I asked for him was to at least TRY a finger....to TRY and get me....turned on...wet......... another 25 years I have to do it this way? Damn. Just....damn. OK sooooooo enough whining from me. Sooooooooo how's your weather? :p |
Shit. This is embarrassing....
:o Gonna try to leave it here in case someone has a suggestion. I might add that I've asked, I've begged, I've tried to SHOW him... I haven't been shy about telling him what I need..... wish things were different.... |
Don't be in the least embarrassed RG....your among friends here
Hubby will not watch you pleasure yourself? |
Nope. He thinks it's stupid/silly. *those ARE his words*
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Sharni's right. You are among friends.
Hubby doesn't enjoy you "playing with him" either? |
Trust me, after 25 years I've tried everything!
Like I said..I really haven't been shy about asking. LOL It's such a drag.. |
Just a thought.....but he may have been brought up with the view that touching yourselves or others in that manner is disgusting.....as he seems only use the missionary position for sex...that makes me also believe this
Is he comfortable discussing sex at all? |
Nope. He's not comfortable talking about ANYTHING having to do with sex.
I'm sure you've got it nailed what the problem is but so far there has been no solution whatsoever. He's also very UNcreative as is his entire family...I do think part of it is our differences in personality, which isn't something that can even BE changed. |
Being that it is so ingrained you maybe right in that he will unfortunately never change
But you still have wants and needs...and should not have to deny that... Regardless of if he is comfortable talking about it or not...you are obviously not happy and he should be told so If he were mine i would sit down and discuss my thoughts and feeling on the subject....and tell him that i love him but if he does not at least try to make an effort that i will go elsewhere to find the parts of the relationship missing, that i need.... But that is just my thoughts......you have to decide if your wants and desires are strong enough or if you can live another 25 years denying what you want |
Randygal I have to agree with Sharni, if he hasn't try to copperate by now he is not likely to in the future. If you would like to talk just PM or reply in this thread. And I sure other pixie freinds will be here to listen.
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I did, for ten years. Unfortunately she was the first woman I'd been with, so I didn't even realize how inadequate the sex was until we were divorced. Okay, I wasn't happy about the lack of variety or her strict time limit, but had no idea other women were so much more responsive. Forgive my rambling, but the point is that you're not the only one who's had that problem. I don't really have any great advice, but good luck. |
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