are there still gentlemen
 

and do you ladys still want them
to hold a door open
to help you out of the car
help you on with your coat
and all the other gentlemenly acts

I am teaching my sons to be gentlemen..... they hold doors for ladies at the mall and the ladies all seem so surprised. I have explained to them that it will pay off for them to learn to be chivalrous. They think it is cool! Of course they also think farts are cool! ROTFLMAO

On the other hand I am infamous for holding doors open for men too.... they usually just look at me :p
I expect courtesy to be a two way street but I dooooo so love a man who goes out of his way to treat me like a lady!

I enjoy being treated like a lady but it's a flip side to the fact that I like it on occasion... like when I'm actually dressed up for a change not in my jeans and a t.... I like it with a smile, don't act like it's killin you! but usually, I'm with Lilith it's a 2-way street I hold doors too. I have also been known to take my b/fs and g/fs flowers..... roses usually

Lilith---I was at Wal*Mart;one day;and I held the door(automatically)for an elderly woman.She was suprised and said;
"Thank You!No one ever does that anymore."I told her that I was
brought up that way!Maybe;it's a generational difference.People
don't teach their kids,manners,or discipline anymore. Irish
P.S.I have held the door for people and they don't offer thanks or
any acknowledgement.I just;yell;"Your Welcome"after them.NO
thanks;but;it embarrasses them terribly!

i think chivalry is totally underrated -- with all the feminism nowadays, some men just gave up ....but it's so nice!!! makes me feel so feminine :) well, i know some guys get confused because they don't want to go "overboard" but there's nothing wrong with opening the door and helping with her coat....little things like that ...

i think it's such a turn-on too. makes me want them to sweep me off my feet and carry me right off to the bedroom!

Well I confess, I am a gentleman, hold doors open, help with coats, stand up when a lady comes to the table.

Still as Irish said, its generational.

Re: are there still gentlemen
 

It is nice when my Boyfriend unlocks my side of His car first or holds a door open for me at dinner or the movies, but I certainly don't expect it from Him.

I am a very independent woman. I was raised that way. It is what I know. As a child, I was a tomboy. Boys were friends. Girls I had crushes on. I enjoyed sports, riding mountain bikes, playing with Hotwheels... As I grew, I "finally" developed crushes on boys as well. By the end of Jr. High (summer before Frosh year of HS), I began to "date" some. Throughout all of High School, I always made sure I had money before I accepted a date. (I didn't want to "risk" the chance of a guy saying I "owed him something" for taking me out...)

~Linds

I personally love being treated like a lady! Teaching my sons to do it too. People are so shocked when my four year old says yes maam or no sir or call them mr so and so or ms so and so. i think its the only way to do it.

I've done all those things for as long as I can remember. Even had a lady seeing me open the car door for my wife one day ask if I gave lessons. Maybe it is a generational thing but this is how my folks taught my brother and I to behave.

As my obsession testifies…
 

… I love everything feminine about the ladies:p :p, and extending some civility is enjoyable for me.:) But as Irish said, it must be generational. I’ve gone threw the femininest decades when I was made to feel as if I insulted somebody with courtesy.:o :( A few manners shouldn’t be notable. Only the absence of them should.:rolleyes:

Tigress, WB. Long time no see.

I do the door thing and all that, not as a male/female thing,

but as a simple act of respect for others.

If you do things just because it's a woman, that is sexist.

I do all those things but like oldfart said its more of a respect thing if there is some one going through the same door as me I will hold it for them weather it be a man woman or somthing else its nice to have them thak me but its better to see the look of surprise on there face

i sometimes absentmindedly open the door to say a restaurant as I'm chatting away on a date and it doesn't bother me in the least, because as others have said, it's a respect thing, but it's funny to see some guys freak out like "oh my god, she got to the door before me....i'm screwed" LOL like i'd actually say, "that's it, you're out!" LOL

I remember i used to date a dutch guy sometimes back. He was really should a gentlemen that I only have memories of our good times together but well... good things have to go... I still misses him though :)

In a way;sexual discrimination,suits are screwing things up!I know that they are needed with some people.My wife works at
Liberty Mutual.A couple of years;ago;they had mandatory classes
on sex discrimination advances.She said that;in a way;it has ruined things now.She said that some prudish people;have sued
over such menial things;that alot of men;that she works with;are
afraid;to even tell someone;that they look nice that day!Believe me;my wife&daughters are very independant! Irish