BDSM 101 intro to dom/sub environments :)
 

hello people.

i could use a little advice. how do you turn a normally submissive lady into a dominant sex goddess? i would like her to be more agressive at times. also she likes a whole lot when i'm a take charge guy. my next problem is i'm running outta ideas. i need some bondage/discipline ideas because i'm fresh out.

Give her a forum like Pixies place and call her DIVA!!!! :D :D :p

Sorry...this goddess thing is going to my head a little!! :D

Dominance?

You can't make someone something they are not without

destroying much of what they are.

Help her to maximise her strengths so she can become her

incarnation of a sex goddess.

Lead her into being assertive and watch her bloom.

Pray it's in your direction.

edge
 

oldfart,

she is on the edge now. she wants to be more agressive it's just that she has been subjected to male dominance for quite some time and she has had the submissive role drilled into her head. what i want to do is coax her darker side to the surface.

souls cry

Coax is good, lead is good, encourage is good.

Being self assertive is wonderful.

This is different to dominance and won't get you off the hook.

She needs you to be strong for her, maybe lovingly

dominant. Be yourself.

There is no way to "turn" anyone anything. We are born the way we are, and it is our journey we take in life that allows us to see who we are. Basically, what I am saying is... We are born submissive or Dominant. It is already inside us. Many people in the lifestyle expressed intrests in their childhood or young adulthood. They found a pattern, so to speak, and developed it. Just like everyone is born straight, gay, or bisexual. It is IN us and we can not "turn" anything else.

~Linds

Actress
 

I dunno, some of us can play a part very well ifwe are so inclined.... give me time, hon and I'll see what I can cum up with.

Always

Kyttn

Hello, Souls...


Although it is true that "we are what we are", so to speak, it is also true you can help develop a person's strength by focusing on that part of their personality, or sexual appetite that they excel in. If she seems to always be "driving" the contact or control in certain positions, or situations, try to focus on specifically on what she is doing that makes her more comfortable in that position or situation... explore that area a little bit more, and it will allow her to grow as slowly or as quickly as she wishes. Here's hoping it works for you, too!

In MHO...
 

Seems to be a little confusion about the merits of "being"

versus "playing".

Whether Kyttn is developing or developing an act is for you

to evaluate and react to.

Re: edge
 

Figure however long she has been drilled into the sub role, it will take as long to unlearn that behaviour, if she really wants to; best that you can do is help her rebuild her self-esteem, if there is a budding dominatrix buried inside, then she can let it out; if not, I'm sure you'll still love the true woman that emerges!

While I don't think that you can change anyone from the way that
they are.You can change their perceptions and habits.
Example:I drank alcohol for over 32yrs.I haven't touched alcohol
in approx. 9yrs.7 1/2mo. I wanted to stop.
I smoked cigarettes for over 12yrs.2pks. of Camels a day.I haven't touched cigarettes in over 30yrs.(pot only)I quit because
I realised it was a habit.
It can be done but your g/f has to desire to have it done. Irish
P.S.As usual;that's just my $.02.