too much of a sex drive?
 

hi guys and gals, first time poster here... :)

me and my fiance have been together for a few years now. we've been engaged for 5 months. well to put it bluntly, she doesn't want sex as much as i do. i was wanting some advice on calming my sex drive down. don't get me wrong when we have sex it is wonderful for both of us....it's just i want it more than she does. i know i kinda irritate her cuz i want it so much, so i would like some pointers on toning myself down. thanks....

Your sex drive is most likely pretty on target with your age. It's normal for men our age to want sex frequently and it's normal for women her age to not want it as frequently as she will when she hits her 30s.

My advice is not to tone it down, but to learn better techniques to seduce her. If you want it, you need to turn her on so that she wants it too, and for most women that requires more than just taking her clothes off and touching her. You need to get inside her head....remind her of how you guys couldnt' keep your hands of each other when you first started sleeping together, try new things, make her feel really desired and cherished.

Don't feel guilty about that fact that you find your woman attractive, but make sure she knows it's HER you want and not just sex. Otherwise she'll just feel like she's an add-on accessory to your masturbation habits.

You may have gathered I've had experience of being in your fiancee's shoes.