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Say out of the blue some life changing event happens and you find yourself alone. Where would you go to find a new love. I am far from the "club" type and would never believe myself to have any luck in them. Yet at the same time, I could never find myself getting excited about an internet relationship.

Give it a good think and get back to me.

^^^Ditto

I'm not into the club/bar scene either. I'd feel like anyone I met in a bar or club was just there to pick up a girl to fuck her.

When you meet someone you want to be with, though, you don't care WHERE you meet them, whether it be school or work or online...Trust me ;)

I agree with Sharni but at the same time I wouldn't give up on finding love through the internet. Its a great way to meet people that you normally wouldn't run into in your neighborhood and one just never knows when true love will occur. Of course you have to be careful but I think its possible. I know very happily married people that met on the net.

I agree... you don't so much have to go out looking, just open yourself up to the possibility. And, if you have any guy friends who are married or dating, you could always ask them if their S/O's have any hot friends to set you up with.

I have been divorced for eight years and have had the occasional "serious" relationship here and there, but nothing that ever lasts. I think I must be meant to be alone. After you are hurt enough, you tend to just give up and begin to think you are worthless. Besides, there are really not many men out there who want to take on a 44 year old woman with a 16 and 12 year old son. If a man couldn't love my kids as his own, he isn't worth it anyway. I definitely don't go to clubs, outgrew that!

Never say never! There are many couples who have met online and have good strong relationships.

The only time I "met" a nut online was when I first got a computer. I of course had ICQ a guy from my city messaged me randomly. The chit chat was nice, normal and interesting and then he excused himself to answer the door.

Coming back he asked me why I sent the internet police to his door. He was sick of me doing it! LMAO.....I exited stage left really fast :)

I think I might be inclined to look online ;) There have been people online that I have become closer and known better than people in my everyday. I like the intimacy (yes I said intimacy) of getting to know a person cognitively, spiritually before visually, that the internet allows.

You have a very valid point Lilith :) I couldn't agree more.

I was always positively scornful about online relationships, until I met Mr FussyPucker and the rest, as they say, is history. :D

Hey, silentsoul. Well I can tell you love can pop up in the most unlikely of places or when you least expect to find it. The more you try and look for it, the more you are likely to get duds. So don't go looking for it, let it find you. Let this new person discover you for themselves so they accept you for....you.

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I hope you are ok! I don't want to assume anything from this thread...but I guess I did.

I'd take a break...get my head together...and then go about my everyday life with a new awareness of availability. Everywhere I go, I'd look at people in a different light. I'd put the vibe out there and I'm sure I'd have to do some weeding out...but I know I'd meet all sorts of new people!

People see the real you when you're not looking for love. And odds are, you'll be more honest with yourself at that time too. How many times have we all heard "As soon as I gave up dating and trying to find a boy/girlfriend...I met the most wonderful person!"? I've had two friends that said something similar.

At any rate...there are people all over this planet, in every corner of the world. At work, the grocery store, gas station where you buy your coffee. It's a casual and relaxed, innocent environment where people are themselves. And yes, the internet. Safety first and protect your privacy. But letting your guard down for people that you get to know can be enlightening and enchanting. I have 20 year friends from high school that I don't know better than some I've met online. And I doubt they know me as truly and deeply either!

I'd probably look on-line.

The bar scene is absolutely out of the question--I'm a non-drinker.

The bar scene is out, the hate it when you bring your walker inside. :hair:

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