Polyamourous
 

I ran across this word recently.. polyamourous -> to love many.

In the context of romantic love, I'm interested what people think. Please take the poll.

Do social mores squelch love? I think so. What do you think?

Well we've voted :p


I just love who I love. *shrugs*

There you go with your big words again.... ;)

I think it's possible, and like Lilith, I love who I love.

You didn't tell us what you thought tho.

This is a somewhat interesting poll... I was introduced to this word as a descriptor of a lifestyle about 6 months ago. I've thought long and hard about it... and I'm still not really sure of it all... I have an opinion of course, but it's only based on my experiences.

I can genuinely care about different people in separate ways in the same manner I can love each of my children for their own being.

i dont think that i cud luv just one person , i only want to married to one but i do totally belive i can luv more than him in a romantic way. he may not be happy to hear that i can but he shud be happy to know its him i choose to be with till death do us part.

~nikki

I don't believe that a person can be 'in love' with more than one person at a time.

By it's very nature, being 'in love' is a feeling of wanting to spend every waking moment with the object of your affection, not being able to think about anything else, counting the moments until you are with that person again.

All in all, being in love is a very time and effort consuming state of being, and I don't think it's possible to feel that for two people at exactly the same time. However, I do think it's possible to romantically love one person, and fall in love with another - dangerous emotional ground, though, of course.

And I'd argue that loving your partner, without being 'in love' with them can be pretty dangerous ground as well.

I agree with PF. I think you can love many people in different ways ~ all of them unique and wonderful. But that feeling of being "in love head over heels" should be reserved for that one special person. There are several very special men in my life (and get your mind outta the gutter here!) who I love very much and would do anything for....

It's one of the hardest things one would ever have to aknowledge about themselves! Speaking from a purely personal experience...being "in love" with two different (totally different) men IS indeed possible and I am living proof that it can happen! I'd venture further to say...it's usually an accidental incident. One thing leads to another and suddenly you have this heart...so full of love...yet split in half. You might love one person for several certain somethings and the other for other certain somethings...but it's true love for both, regardless of the differences. And, I'm NOT saying that what is lacking in one relationship is sought in the other. I'm not even saying that anything is lacking in one or the other relationship. I'm saying that while you are loving one person with all of your heart...the other person steals part of your heart...and your heart splits...but never falters. Kinda like the egg that splits into identical twins. Two perfect, but different, entities...that started as one!

Just because it might not seem possible to you, doesn't mean it isn't possible.

I can't say that this is an ideal way to carry on a lifelong relationship[s]. Actually, I can't see it ever being ideal. Sooner or later it will take it's toll in some aspect of your life and you'll have to choose. That's not to say that the love has failed on either side. Just that, life has a way of moving along and taking you with it, and when you look up, your direction has changed and one or the other person hasn't made the same moves. That's the hardest part of it all!

OK...so I voted Kendall. Can you guess my vote? LOL!

John Grey, the infamous pen behind "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" once stated in a Playboy interview (which is the only reason I bought the magazine :D ) that masturbation harmed your relationship with your S/O because it excluded them from a very intimate act. You can imagine what he would've said about loving two people simultaneously. Then again, he also said that wives should give their husbands handjobs anytime they're requested because they feel so good and require so little effort. So he's got good points as well as bad. :D

Maybe I'm trying to stretch a point that doesn't exist. I think it's possible to love more than one person at the same time. Two people that are strikingly similar in all facets are bound to generate the same feelings in someone that cares deeply for one of them. I envision this scenario much more apt to occur than one person loving two others that are polar opposite to each other. But hey...what do I know? I'm just a dumbass. lmao

Been poly for years.

Fuck the social mind-control bullshit that says, that because you happen to love a person romantically, you can't love another; or, if you hapen to love someone, and then you meet someone else, and come to love that person, you have to stop loving the first person.

The whole enforced monoamory thing is a twisted version of "morality" that is destructive of people's humanity.

For me I can only romanticly love one man. I can lust after a few others and love them enough that I care about what happens to them, but I only want to be with one certain man.

You know...every man I have loved has been different in many "surface" ways.....some are professional/others not; some are tall/some not; some are introverts/some are extroverts; big age difference (25 years)/small age difference (1 year). But, I think WI is right ~~ the fundamentals don't change.

They are ALL intelligent, intellectual, dedicated, honest, loving, honorable, kind men...who are so very special to me. Thanks to WI for making me realize this!

You're welcome osuche. But I couldn't help but notice that "balding Irishman" wasn't anywhere on your list. :(

C'mon over here and I'll give you some lovin' ;)