revenge is sweet
 

but is it worth it?

I lived with my man for 6 motnhs, not really that long when I think about it. About 2 months ago I went off sex, cause of the stress caused by his wild spending, and feeling like a maid.

He understood at the time. Then he started spending a lot of time "working on his car", when he was really meeting with a 15 year old.

We split last week, he said it was cause we never did anything together anymore. HOW THE HELL COULD WE! HE SPENT ALL HIS TIME AWAY FROM ME!

I suggested some time away from each other, then try again. but he said no.

|He is now trying to get with this 15 year old, who has told him she only wants 2 b friends with him. His reply to that was "we'll see"

I want to hurt him the way he hurt me. But is it worth it? His 15 yr old and I now speak regularly, and have become friends, she was just as hurt by him as i was, he lied to her right left and center too. She wants revenge too, but how? and should we?

How old is he? Isn't he committing a crime by attempting to be with a minor?

The best revenge in this case would be for the both of you to cease all contact with this guy, IMHO.

he is 18. he hasnt had sex with her, she wont, she wants to keep her virginity for someone special.

I told him he was dead to me. what she does, well, i dont know

My opinion (and it's only that) is that to take revenge on someone just means they are still controlling your life .... walk away and be happy that nothing worse happened to you than what did and take the time to figure out how to live so it doesn't happen like that again in your life ... then move on .... live your life for you and be happy in it. :)

Good riddance to bad rubbish...move along.

He's obviously not worth your time. I agree with Lilith and Fzzy, time to move on. As long as you hold onto this desire for revenge, you won't be able to move forward. The best revenge is to find someone who makes you happy and treats you right. Let it go, you deserve better. *Hug*

Little_Miss,

While you may enjoy now exacting revenge on one who betrayed you, remember you have to live with yourself. Try to avoid doing something now that will cause you shame for the rest of your life.

Turn not away from him but toward a better life.

I agree with our posts so far. All I can add is, a real revenge that could satisfy you two ladies would be to just find other endeavors and act as if he never existed. Your lack of grief will puzzle and dig at him enough to serve as a form of revenge you can live with. I've always believed any bad you do comes back to you in time. No need to open an account for later when just being happy will work as well.

You are all right. I keep letting him toy with my head, and I cant keep going on like this.

I went out to someone he used to knows' party last night, I had such a good time, I met so many new people. I needed to get home so I had to phone him to get hold of a mutual friend to take me, and while asking him to pass the phone on he toyed with my head again. It obviously bothered him that I had a good time without him.

You are also right about the guilt I would feel if I did do anything, now I think about it, i would feel awful after the original satisfied feeling passed.

I wont lie, I miss him so much, but he risked our relationship for a 15 year old girl who has nothing to offer him, he made his bed, now he can lie in it. Thank you all so much!

The best revenge you can have against someone like this is to be happy!

Best of luck!
CasperTG

Good advice from FZZY and the rest.Write him off and move on.If you are still friends with someone as young as 15,give her the advice to protect herself and never to be manipulated by a creep like that.You both deserve better.

(((((((((Little_Miss))))))))) You already have your revenge. He doesn't have YOU!!!!!!!!!:) ;)

CGT you are soooo right. That is basically my theory, if he doesn't love me right then fuck 'em.

Yep Lilith, I know because I'm going through it right now with my marriage of 10 years. I'm nobodys punching bag, not ever again!!!!!

If you keep thinking about revenge, he has a hook in your brain.

Sweep him out of your life and get on with making it good for you.

He's irrelevant.