when sex gets boring
 

Alright folks, I'm new here. I would like to begin by asking all of you students from the college of sexual life-long learning this question: how have YOU rekindled the passion and excitment of a long term relationship (assuming you have had dips in sexual excitment in such a relationship). I look forward to your responses.
Omen

bring another guy into bed!

How did that work out for you the first time, Chinese?

We started veering off the 'vanilla' path....

Tell me more Lilith...

We began incorporating more sensory type experiences into sex. Variations in pressure, touches, smells, temperatures, etc. I also gave up on being a prudish good girl and became a wanton seductress.;) I would suggest exploring some different sexual practices than is your usual. If you are not in a position to ask for exactly what you want, you can always warm her up to the idea by reading her erotica that involves those practices you'd like to try.

Mmm, reading erotica! That will work! Also, the two people will have to be open to resurrecting the passion for it to work. New stuff - new locations, new positions, new attititudes, new hair, new clothes, new toys - it's all good!

I think dating other people would spice up things too :D:D:p








oh sorry! That is just what I am working on;)

Trying new things, such as toys, positions, role playing, ect.

i love these suggestions!

Be sure you're romancing each other outside of the bedroom, too. Giving each other attention, doing things or saying things that say I love you outside of the bedroom, can have quite an impact in the bedroom. Maybe something as simple as being sure you do your fair share of chores at home or do something extra for her when she's had a rough day will translate over into the bedroom in no time. Or tell her way ahead of time how much you're looking forward to making love that night or the next day...mention some of the things you want to do to her...in other words, let the anticipation build up so that you're both about ready to explode when you hit those sheets. Then throw in all the suggestions everyone's been making about changes or additions IN the bedroom as well.

That is so true BlueSwede.....the foreplay doesn't always mean a few kisses and caresses in bed before the fireworks.

I know that I am much more receptive to new things sexually when I have been "romanced" (for lack of a better word - and that doesn't mean receiving flowers and such) outside of the bedroom. Feeling loved, not being tired from all of the kids and chores and sharing the worry of running a home - that is what makes me more receptive to activity in bed (or in any other room for that matter).

A few kisses on the back of my neck, gentle caresses (NOT just on the X zones) across my back, hips, shoulders, will make me anticipate a possible wonderful night ahead.

Communication is also a key. Talk about it, but not in a negative way. Not like - I am so bored with our sex life. That may lead to feelings of inadequacy in the relationship. Go to the bookstore together... there are wonderful books on how to make sex more exciting - pick one out together.. make it fun.....

Great advice so far! I love it!

How about sleeping naked? That sends out all kinds of sexual electricity.

Blue, great suggestions

I would echo what Lilith said. We started getting into role play fantasies a few years ago and we found that they really made things fun.

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