Is Age Difference a Big Thing?
 

Just curious about all of you out there....

What has been the biggest age difference between you and a present or former spouse/significant other, etc?
Has an age difference been an important factor for any of you?



As for myself, my personal situation would have to be a 24 y/o guy I was seeing when I was 20. Maybe it was just the guy, but he made me feel like I was too immature for him, so we had to part ways. After that, every guy has always been younger than me. But I'd definitely like to have a relationship with someone older and more experienced in the near future :cool:

I think that what matters is not so much age difference, as which particular ages are involved. If an 18 year old starts hitting on my 14 year old daughter, then it's time for me to get my shotgun. But I can't see problem with a thirty year old and a forty year old person dating each other.

no worries here
 

For me age difference doesn't really matter. I'm in love with older women, the older the better. I've dated a woman as old as 41 before, 22 years difference....right now I'm in love with a great 22 year old named anne. which is 3 years.....so age doesn't matter much to me.

Age has never mattered to me much, for the most part. I dated someone younger than myself once and really didnt care for it that much and really cant explain why. My SO is 8 years older than me and all my former girlfriends with the exception of the one, were at least 3 years older than me.

Well I guess that puts me into the "Older Women" Group. :D

Mine have been pretty much older than me by a few years. Got bored. Found myself a younger man ..7 years...



And I am still BORED!!! ROTFLMAO!!!!! :D :D :D

I have to say age is never of any importance to me the right person is the right person doesn't matter how old !

and hey always remember age is relative.......and as long as she isn't a relative it's legal !!!! :D

My current SO is 18 years younger. My average is around 10-15 years difference.

Mostly it's not the age on the driver's license, but the age in

the head that counts.

Age difference worries mainly seem to arise from people's own

fears and expectations. My greatest difference was a 39yo

when I was 18, but I'll settle for about 10 years my junior if I

get the chance.

Women, like wine, mellow with age....nuff said

:D

It's a bigger difference when you are younger. If you are a senior in high school and dating a sophmore, it could be considered statutory rape. But 10 years later it is nothing.
I used to have a rule: When I left high school, I wouldn't date anyone in high school, when I turned 21 I wouldn't date anyone under 21.

When I was 22 I dated a 29-year-old married woman. (BTW, that was not one of my best moments and I am not proud of it)

I guess it doesn't really matter as long interests are not too different because of age.

Oh well.

CK

EXACTLY. Seriously, at my age (23) I cannot go too young. My youngest was my ex..he is 20 now. The reason he is my ex? MATURITY. Simply put, he wasn't mature and thanks to that he's going to lose out on a lot. I'm not a stickler for age, though, I do think I'm going to look for an older guy this time. Got a nice, 29 year old in mind too....

Hmmmm :D

Hmmmmmmm.........Well, OK......here goes!

I've got the bases covered on this one.

My first significant relationship, we were in the same age bracket. I met him when he was 16 and I was 13. I know....I know! Well, we went together for 9 (in retrospect, horrible) years. I am just grateful I never married him! Stuck in there for 9 years though....OMG!

Second significant relationship (and eventually I did marry him) was with a man 11 years my senior. What was I thinking? Not that his age had a tremendous impact on "us" but that he was just very set in his ways. And to be honest, that wasn't all that bad a thing except that I played second fiddle to his beer and his sports! He was a gentleman and a very sweet man but he wasn't really interested in me. Divorced after 8 years of trying!

My current (and most successful) relationship to date is my man of 8 years my junior. We've had our rocky moments but have always been able to compromise and I think with the fact that we had waited for 12 years before we actually married, it gave us time to see if "we" were what the other wanted in our lives. I don't reccommend this action for anyone, it's just how we did things. He and I are working on 15 years now. Hmmmmmmm.......think he's got a foot out the door? LMAO....JK!

Now, I'm not sure if age has played a role in any of my relationships....or maybe it has.

And to be honest I am trying to figure Coach's response as to his least proud moment for dating a woman 7 years older. I feel as though I should be ashamed of something here.....Hmmm????? Well, I'm not! Teehee!

Lixy, I had no prob with the age thing, what I had a prob was with the she was married thing. I hated that feeling, knowing she was always going home to her husband. I felt like such an idiot when we would go out. Oh well, I was immature and after about 9 months I realized I couldn't stand her at all. Not even being in the same room with her.

We're not going to fight again, are we Lixy?

;);)

CK

Awwwwwwwww! TY for splainin that CK. I was just wondering hun! Oh and.....do we ever stop fighting? It's what draws us to one another, I've a feeling.....LOL!

NP Lixy, Truce!

Age makes no difference if the chemistry is there............

My Mum is 15 years younger than my Dad and they are happy.

biggest age difference here wa when I was about 23 and was with the 35 yr old.. or was it when I was 24ish with the 40 something.. lol age is just a number ; it's all in your head . You're only as old as you feel ..

My oldest was only 3 years older, current is same age. Now comes the down side, I had two of my grandmothers who were more than 15 years the junior. And when my grandfathers died they had better then 20 yrs alone in their old age. My grandma told me that the age difference doesn't matter when you are young but after their S/O was gone it matters alot. Sorry for the downer. Please forgive.

What FP said! :D

Ok, you will probably all think I'm nutso for asking this, but oh well, here goes...

Does anyone believe in destiny? The reason I ask is because on both sides of my family, the last 4 generations of women have all married younger men. While I'm not actively searching for a younger guy, that's all I've dated, with the exception of one. I don't know how big of an age difference I would be comfortable with (probably 3 years at most), but maybe that will change as I grow older, like some of you said. I just wonder if history is going to repeat itself with me...it's kind of strange to think about for me!

first question - I'd prefer it if they were around the same age as me.....I just couldn't date someone as old as my mother.

second question - Well....I'd never failed any subject in my whole life and last year I did. That caused me to stick around my current place of residence. Then I found pixies and became a member. Some months later, I pm'ed a nother member just to say hi......and now, I've with the girl of my dreams. You have to feel a little like something was keeping an eye on things...

If I didn't believe in destiny and fate I'd go mad.

Things do happen for a reason but that does not mean we don't have to take responsibility for our lives.

I truly believe everything happens for a reason. I also believe that there is no such thing as a age difference. I have been out with 18 years old that act 40 and 40 year olds that act 18. It is all in the personality why let something as little as age stop you from finding that special someone. When we start putting limits on ourselves is when we stop trying. Live life to the fullest.

Hmmm...I am about 10 years your junior.... ;) :D :D

I have dated both ways older and younger.......there are definitely situations that can occur with either but on a whole, if the personalities mesh, and both are heading in the same general directions, accomodations can always be made to alleviate any problems that age could be a factor in.

I believe that the younger you are the more the age difference matters. My very first serious relationship, I was 16, he was 21 and egaged and later married. He seemed so very grown up and mature to me at the time.
After that I don't think I dated anyone much more than 2 or 3 years older than myself, and NEVER anyone younger. My husband is exactly, almost to the day, older than I.
But Murphy is almost exactly 10 younger than I am. At first I really wasn't sure, thinking it might be a problem. But it really hasn't. Rather than making me feel older, it's done just the opposite. :)

My SO is 8 years younger then I am, I have always preferd younger women, I guess that because I am inmature myself

I know where CK;is coming from.A gorgeous woman;where I used
to work;used to blow me;almost every morning;before work!I met
her husband once and besides my nasty side coming out(thinking
that he was blowing me;by proxy)I actually felt sorry for him.
Wife---4 1/2mo. older then me!
Her 2 sisters---Older then their husbands!
Our 2 daughters---Older then their husbands!
My parents---Mother older then Father!
Wifes parents---Mother older then Father!
Most of our friends&relatives---Wife older then husband!
ETC. Notice a pattern here?
I still believe that age makes no difference!It's the person and your relationship;that matters! Irish

I won't tell you the largest age gap ;) But I'm 20, and I've had sexual friends as old as late 60's. Not boyfriends, just fuck buddies.

Age is not important.

I married a guy twice my age and am now dating a guy five years my junior. Never thought I'd go out with a younger guy but he's mature and rocks!

Taking a lesson from geology, age IS relative,….. and nothing lasts forever.
 

I’ve hoped this fence a few times. Have shared love (and sex) with older and younger woman. Our partners are going to be a different age. (mathematical, odds are you’re not going to have a meaningful relationship with somebody born on the same day:rolleyes:. That sure would narrow the field if that’s all you’d consider) And age difference is a handy hook to hang failed relationships on;).
We also need the “exception” so we can slide in when we do something stupid if it happen to worth out (at least for a decade or two), but the best “guideline” I have found is suppose to be an old Arabic rule. For a relationship with some common ground, the man should never be with a woman that is younger than ½ his age plus 7 years:cool:. Surprisingly it does seem to work across the board. And I suppose it will work with younger guys as well.

Now I want to use the “EXCEPTION” and talk with ALL the Pixie ladies that are under 36. Hell! Everything here in Pixieville is an exception in this screwed up world. (And I love it!):p :D :p

Seems that every female I've ever been with was about 6 months my junior, of course all these relationships began when a year was a big difference...biggest age difference I ever knew of had to be my own parents, 1 month short of 12 years between them...not sure they would be a good or bad example (turns out it was something of a shotgun marriage), but they stayed together for 44 years...guess that should count for something...

hey, pantyfanatic, not to hijack the thread but the longest relationship i've had, with a girl i still love deeply, can't get out of my head, and hope to get back with someday, is with my 'twin'. we share the exact same birthday, day/month/year! :p

Re: Taking a lesson from geology, age IS relative,….. and nothing lasts forever.
 

36???? That's fine Panty...I will remember that next time you PM me...I won't read it since I am OLDER than 36!! :eek: :p :p :D :D

dannyk---By "twin";do you really mean that it is your "twin sister"?There's a law about that you know.Just kidding! Irish
P.S.Actually;nothing is illegal;unless you get caught

my biggest age diference was 6 years me 19 she was she taught me alot about sex.
But I real don't think age matters I've been good friends with lots of girls who were either older or younger then me.

I'm 12 years older than my fiance. I DO agree that compatibility and how young you act or feel is very important, as well as whether you are on the same wavelength so to speak sexually. However, I DO get concerned at times if he'll still think of me the same way when I am 70 and he isn't even 60 yet. "Old" women are at best not looked on as sexy and at worst are the brunt of jokes (as in "Who'd want to have sex with a woman THAT ancient?!") I don't mean to come across as bitter, just realistic, and a little scared. In the mean time, though, we're both having the time of our lives (and he's trying his best to match my sex drive).

When I was 16 I had a 22 year old girl who really liked me, I didn't mind at all :)

9 years difference here