Dirty Talk?
 

Just wondering...

How any members are turned on by dirty talk in the heat of the moment?

Not just the girls but the guys too.

Girls..do you enjoy a guy or s/o grabbing you by the hair and caling you a whore/slut/nasty bitch while youre in the throes of orgasm?

Guys..do you like your partner hissing and spitting at you and calling you a nasty fucker while your pounding for all your worth?

Just a little poser! ;-)

Not necessarily in the terms you used but I really get turned on by dirty pillow talk.

Sounds are every bit a part of the whole sensory experience. She doesn't have to be screaming profanities in my ear but moaning, groaning and breathless words of encouragement are all a massive turn on.

Nasty talk can be great at times. Sometimes it's nicer to have hot encouragement rather than some of what you posted.

I agree with Glyndwr and Tree.

I like passion, total involvement and hot talk but use of the above names does nothing for me at all.

I love dirty talk, but that doesn't necessarily mean calling each other abusive names.

Depends what kind of sex we're having. There have been times, when I've been digging my nails in his back really hard where he's called me a bitch without even really realising it, and there have been times when I've been trying to goad him into fucking me harder and harder that I've called him a bastard because it's just sort of slipped out in the heat of the moment. In general, though, I'd rather talk dirty about fantasies we have, what's coming next, what we're doing right now etc etc.

Hey thanks Loulabelle!!

You seemed to sum it all up a lot more succinctly than I did!

This is what i was trying to get at ..but hey!..Im just a male right? ..LOL!

I admit there are moments when I love it when he calls me a slut, or a bitch. I think the appeal of it is that I know how much he loves and respects me, that being called names and being treated like a slut sort of frees me to be a little more wild and nasty in bed. It's safe and fun and gosh does it make me wet.

Love it, want it, need it!

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I don't really care to be called names like that during sex.
I mean it. Call me a whore during sex, and I am walking OUT!
Having said that, I admit that I have been turnd on when I have had partners say things like "you are a dirty little (thing, girl, slut etc.) aren't you?" while I was pleasuring them is some special way.
Especially offering anal sex. That sems to thrlil men in some really odd way.
But a man looks down at me while I am going down on him and says "suck it bitch" he may get bitten, or maybe just left holding his cock in his hand as I walk out.
It sounds contradictory, but it is a contextual thing.

Anyone want to help me explain this more clearly?

WW (slut)

If any lover of mine called me one of those names he'd/she'd be soaring to new heights alright...and i don't mean the good kind!

I think a lot depends on the relationship you have with the person who's saying it to you. If I were involved in a one night stand or a fuck-buddy type arrangement and my partner(s) called me a name like that I would react in a very negative way.

If it comes from someone who loves and respects you, whom you know does not really feel that you are a slut/bitch/whore then it becomes a kind of role play that you are both in on and is harmless.

FussyPucker will often refer to me as a 'Sexy Bitch' when I've done a particularly good job of reversing the car into a difficult space, or even call himself that when he's sorted out a computer problem that's been troubling us/ whatever. Because it's used in such a positive and humourous context in our relationship, it doesn't bother me if he calls me a 'Dirty bitch' when I suggest something filthy in bed. It's usually accompanied by a look of admiration and awe, rather than one that demeans me or makes me feel ashamed.

I think that's probably what you mean by it being a contextual thing, isn't it, WW?

Yep! I was once left a very sexy phone message where I was called a name in the context of possession (MY). It was sexy because I know he respects me and loves me. Made me hot :hot:

LMAO. We tend to focus on speaking graphic descriptions of what we're going to do to each other...not names. Both are sexy in the right context. ;)

I am mostly guessing here, may not be the same way you feel. Calling someone anything derogitory or mean is only to establish dominence. It is to say I am better than you. That kind of mind set makes the whole sexual act nothing but using the other person.

If however the implication is that the other person is unexpected, and different, but not in a bad way, it is more of a compliment. In longer words
"you are a dirty little (thing, girl, slut etc.) aren't you?" is equal to saying I was not expecting this, but I really enjoy it, you are special. It's flirty and fun, but it does not place one person superior to the other.

well thats my take on it anyway, personally I would adore the second situation, flirty fun, etc. but mean and judgmental, bah. ruins everything

That's a really interesting take on it Nuelaan, and I am definitely inclined to agree with you.

I think it's a multi-layered thing but I'm sure that's an element of it certainly, although one I'd not really considered until now.

I love to do the dirty talk.I help turn nice married ladies into sluts.

I totally agreed with Wanda. It all depends on which type of 'dirty' the talk is. My mood will change if I am being call a whore during making love time.

*purrrrzzzzz* I've never been a "nice" married lady :brows:


As for me, ohhhh i doooo love when Catch whispers and growls sumpin like "you like this cock, baby?" when he's sliding it in faster and faster and faster and harder and harder and harder......aaaand ohhhhhhhmyyyyyygawwwwddddd!!!!

--kathy1

To me, (and this may sound prudish), dirty talk equals no respect. He'd be lucky not to have his privates separated...permanently.

Mae, your comment intrigues me:

Dirty talk doesn't have to be name calling or aggressive. Would you really find it disrespectful if in the heat of the moment he murmured in your ear:

'Mmmm baby, you've got me soooo hard....I just love your breasts....I can't wait to feel myself inside you'

???

Personally, I think that dirty talk like that conveys a sense of awe and worship which I find far from disrespectful.

There's a big difference between "Mmmmm...my cock feels so good in your mouth" and "Yeah, that's it...suck my cock, you little whore".

But then, attitude is what makes the words sexy or disrespectful. And your attitude is determined outside of the bedroom.

Sorry but not a turn on for me at all

Nor me.

I'm a firm believer in "Don't talk to me of love, show me!!'

Ha ha ha...I halfway belong to that religion myself...

I love dirty talking, but within the limits of character and region of occasion. For me, it's just not in my character to call a woman either bitch or whore during sex (or in general, except for "bitch" and only when I'm seriously pissed off at a person who done me wrong personally) although I can understand the appeal of it in the interest of the prurient. I can't really knock it if it works for other people. But if I did that, it'd just sound like I was trying too hard or imitating a bad porno flick. I don't think I have enough ingrained force into my speech for it to be taken seriously.

I'm generally a "grunt & groaner" as far as noisemaking is concerned and will delve into sparse, whispered dirty talk in her ear as we're fucking, about our body parts rather than gender-possessive pejoratives. Kinda in the "your pussy is so tight/feels so good" or "how do you wanna be fucked/do you like my cock inside you" vein. That's vanilla enough to start out with, so if she's responsive enough to that, I'll go a little further. I once told a nasty story in this girl's ear as I fucked her, because she liked the sound of my voice enough to get her grind on off of it. That was a lot of fun!

For some reason I don't get lucky enough to have partners who are nasty to be creative with their voice. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind the "moaners only club" ladies, but it would be nice to have someone tap into their inner dark side and just let loose with being dirty. I've only had that a precious few times in my experiences and in my longer-term relationships, it'd come later on after the whole initial sexual shyness thing has passed. Maybe it's something to be nurtured as well as be in nature.

I'm more of a play by play kind of dirty talker myself. More of the, "You like it when I eat your pussy babe?" or "Yeah, suck that cock!" kind of stuff. Never really been into the using of derogatory names thing. It all really depends upon the woman and the situation though. I'm perfectly content to skip the dirty talk altogether if need be.

It sounds to me like we are discussing two different things here. "Dirty talk" during sex, i.e. "your pussy feels so damn good" and just plain derogatory name calling....they are not at all related in my opinion.

i agree ^^^

hiya TT

I appreciate the views expressed. I stick with what I said earlier. Whether it is sex or not, that kind of talk is a turn off and disrespectful of the person you are with. My thoughts.

Just like that. :nod:

Sometimes if things are particularly hot I may say "gawd your pussy's so wet and sweet" or "suck my cock hun... mmmmm... like that".

I do feel like mae in that calling a woman my slut or whore is demeaning.... and that's the last thing I would want to do.........

i wouldn't like it at all if it's mean spirited, as most sane women would not. we talk dirty and have played wth mild name-calling, used sparingly and rarely, which i love when we’re both in a nasty mood. ;) i do know i don’t wish he’d do it more, or make it more base and raw. i like the balance we have between monkey-sex and making love and that we can seperate them sometimes..

i will, however, totally cop to having a fantasy or two where i'm called all sorts of nasty names. again - not mean spirited - just supremely nasty.

on the other hand, for me, fantasy and reality are separate from each other with regards to sex, and i don't always want my fantasies to come true.

If I can hear love and respect in their voice, any words can flip my switch. I've been called a cock-hungry slut, and a hot little bitch....and loved it. But it wasn't the words themselves, it was the tone of admiration and excitement. I just have a hard time imagining "whore" being used like that...but I won't say it's impossible.

That said, I realized as I was reading this thread that I don't use those words (or the male equivalents). In stories sometimes, but not in real life. In life, my dirty talk is more about actions than lables.