Super-triple-dicklepissed!!
 

OK.

So I open up my email today and in it is a letter from the leader of my support group for military families. This letter has the heading of "VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION! ALARMING!" or something like that. Needless to say, I was scared shitless! I was sure something had happened to Mr. LAW.

Turns out it was something about posting personal information on the message board they were starting.

Now I'm just pissed. What the hell was she thinking!! She is our only point of contact with the boys overseas and we take her information very seriously. She should have known better than to do that.

Am I overreacting?

LAW

I'd bitch slap her into tomorrow :D

Not to be dark, but I'd think that if something personally tragic happened (God forbid), you would not get an email.

But logic goes out the window when you see something like that. Go ahead and slap her!

smack her a good one!!! I'd be pissed too! Hell, I'd be pissed if someone wrote that to me anyway! :nuts:

And if you don't slap her at least tell her how that e-mail upset you, So that it won't happen again.

You may want to BOLDLY QUOTE THAT HEADING with a very blunt paragraph on your feelings,:mad: in a reply e-mail, and DO have lots of entries in the Cc: box. :devilish:

Good idea PF!

Gawd Hun!

You've got to tell her that an alarm is an alarm is an alarm! We are ALL sitting over here on pins and needles and we need you sensitivity more than anyone elses. When she wants your undivided attention...just say..."I need your attention because this is exciting news and happy news"!

Oh LAW...smack the livin daylights outta her!

(((((((lonelyarmywife)))))))

Good Gawd...don'tcha just hate people sometime?!!!

No and thats just the beginning. i got them too. half their info isn't right anyways. :rolleyes2

So I talked it over with one of my support group friends and together we sent her a very strongly worded email, but just to her. I figure it's not everyone else's fault and there's no need to drag them into it. I'll let you know her respone.

Good! I'm glad you told her. She needs to think about her use of words and how they're going to effect people.

Glad you replied to her, LAW. Obviously her e-mail was in very bad taste. I'm sure she didn't realize how she'd affect others at the time she sent you that (we humans are capable of being terribly ridiculous), but she needs to be aware of the impact of her words.

Yep. Bitch slap her.

Then tell her to get her head out of her ass and run things the way they should be. A family support group is there to SUPPORT THE FAMILIES. Support means being sensitive to their emotions, helping them when they need a hand, and being there for each other for a little morale.

Oh, and one more thing... tell them to make sure there is no place for rumors there. Our FSG was horrible about that and it just made the deployment 10X harder. So-and-so's great aunt's cousins brother's friend doesn't have a clue WTF is going on anyway. :rolleyes2

i can'i imagaine what that would feel like.

but think you did the right thing by not making a huge deal out of it. she probably did it without thinking it through. good for you for settiin' her straight though. :D

OK, NOW I'M MAD!

So my response to her went something like this "I was terrified by your heading in your email. YOu need to choose your words more carefully because they are being scrutinized by everyone." I also said that I felt that as my support group leader, she really let me down today.

This load of SHIT is what I got back.

*names and personal info deleted*




First of all, you are the only one out of 150 complaining, second, I don't know what I have done, but everytime you have emailed me or called me you have had an attitude. We can not get excited over a email that states very important, especially when it is Fwd from others. Third, I do not give bad news, this will not come from me, they will come knocking at your door. I am only here to share good news, keep you informed, help with benefits, give direction, foward emails from others and mainly CPT K****. If you are looking for bad news to come through me, it won't happen.

Your husband, is your connection with your husband, if your husband does not call you then I can tell you through CPT K**** that everything is ok. If you have an emergency, you need to contact the Red Cross, then contact me so that I can speed things up.

I work a full time job, go to school, raise a 10 year old with special needs and doing this as a volunteer, along with dealing with my husband and older son over there. I am doing what I was trained for. You are a local soldier's wife, and SGT C******** has been in the unit for a while, you can always volunteer your time to make this better.



This is the part where you guys calm me down, cause I'm about to blow.

You know what...she's fried. And nothing you can say to her will make her life worse or make her understand. Let it go. Take the high road. Use her for information when necessary but take what she says with a grain of salt because you can see she is walking on a tightrope and both her nerves and the tightrope are frazzled. Unfortunately sometimes we have to depend on people who are undependable or just plain stretched too thin. I'm sorry she was ugly to you. She needn't have been but it won't make you feel better to be ugly back. (((((((((((((LAW)))))))))) people suck sometimes:(

Don't know if I can help you calm down...cause she pissed me off too! Sounds to me like the rest of the group sit down and kick this bitch to the curb. She's lost sight of what it's all about. Find someone new to head the group... one that actually has her head OUTSIDE of her ass. :hair:

The lady has a bit too much on her plate and might be a bit too personally involved. I'm not familiar with these sorts of groups or much of anything military. It might be useful, since you are very aware of how you want to be treated to take her suggestion and get more involved and volunteer to take on some responsibility. It will allow you to have more control over how things are handled going forward. I always feel we should spend our volunteer time on something we are passionate about, and it seems you are rather passionate about your husband and the military (rightfully so too!).

(((law)))

((((((LAW))))))) I am so sorry you are going thru this. It's hard enough I know having him over there. Having someone thats not qualified to pass on information has got to be very irritating. Is there someway you can apply for this job?

i would love to help and have offered on several different occasions to lend a hand. I have never been taken up on it. She insists on doing everything herself, then complains about it ad naseum.
I knew she was going to be a problem even before Mr. LAW left.

LAW,
Anyway your hubby could help or someone you know here? Forward on her emails and let them know that all you have requested is some better head lines; especially, when it wasn't as urgent as her title made it seem as it was.
She didn't need to make it sound the way it did and she didn't needed to be so rude. I hope that things will work out for you. *HUGS*