Advice for the Rookie???
 

Okay ya'll, I am pretty sure that tomorrow is going to be the big day. Yes, I am 22 and I've waited a long time, . . . . . but I was wondering if there was any advice you could offer? What do I need to know. I feel totally clueless


Thanks:confused:

You may want to start by getting up in the morning. Wash your face and brush you teeth. The rest of the day will pretty much take care of it’s self. I think you’ll find it a lot like today.;)

I hope you are right.

Just relax, experience and enjoy!! Above all... BE SAFE!!

And, welcome to Pixies :) :)

DM

OH!
Did you have a reason to expect it to be different than 23.93446965 hours long?:rolleyes:

WELL yeah. I hope its a little different. And I hope it's not the typical "first time is always bad" kind of thing. i guess we'll see.

WEAR A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just relax and be yourself the only thing you have to make sure is...............WEAR A CONDOM as aunty Lilith says :)

Just relax and enjoy! ;)

I would imagine everything exactly how you want it. Go to the library and do research on the best positions. then when she takes off her shirt, you will forget all of it. :D

her? .....i am the girl...

oops :D

LMAO @ T-S !!! :D :D ;)

man..i thought i was gonna get some good details . . . . . .???

TexasTreasure just relax, enjoy, be slow, pleasure him as well as yourself be safe and above all ENJOY.

this is all great...i guess i'm just a little nervous about living up to expectations and things like that.

I doubt your first time will live up to your expectations, especially if your partner is inexperienced. It gets better with practice.

he is a bit older than i am and quite experienced

That was close
 

I almost posted thinking that you're male.

I suggest you do it with you on top that way you have more control. Also, ask the guy to freshen up immediately before both of you get together. If you feel uncomfortable ask him if you can stroke it and check it out for a second. Complement his equipment and keep the moment light and playful.

Don't expect him to bring a condom. If I was you ... I would buy a box just in case he forgets or his is not new or weak. You never know.


Dan


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Girl, just relax, forget expectations, and go with it. Do what makes you feel good, and don't hold back.

Enjoy, and have a good time! ;)

Don

dont forget to fuck his brains out (and hopefully he will return the favor) ;)

my fault. In that case, you will forget everything when he takes his pants off. Dont laugh if its small ethier :D

Besides that take it slow, let him know to go slowly and dont be afraid to be creative

Not to sound Cliche................JUST DO IT

So, how did it go?

If it hasn't happened yet, I would strongly suggest LOTS of foreplay before "the big event".

LMAO, I was as clueless reading the start of this thread as all the rest i do believe? like Steph, if it has already happened how did it go? If it has not, have no expectations, relax, and lotssssss of foreplay, and when you feel ready do it.

Another Tip
 

If you still feel nervous beforehand, ask him to kiss it for good luck. If he's already did that ... ask him to do the alphabet. For those of you who don't know, thats when you trace each letter of the alphabet over the top section of the Pu*sy (the hood).

If he did both those things and you're still a little nervous ... ask him to rim you. I've never done that, but a guy has to be wild for you if he does it.

Since your first time will not be perfect it might as well be unforgetable. Besides, if he makes you cum 3 or 4 times ... you have something to brag about to your friends in the future.


Dan

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you guys are very cute......and thanks for all the advice.

i will say that i did follow through with it, but it wasnt as "earth-shattering" as i had hoped.

It gets better........I promise!:)

i can only hope so !!

As a male even I can say it gets better with practice.

good then i have LOTS to look forward tooo *wink*

Curious ...
 

Which suggestions from this board did you use?

Also, did cum?

Dan

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actually to tell ya the truth...i felt like it was a "wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am" kind of deal....not to mention the fact that i didnt reach orgasm and he left about 20 minutes afterwards.............yeah..i was kinda disappointed actually.

O.K., I'm disappointed for you, Texas T. That is terrible that he left 20 Mins. after. What was he thinking???? Don't give up on us guys' we're not all like that. Some of us want you to be satisfied!!

thanks for the encouragement whitehorse.......and i wont give up. i'm not a quiter *wink* . . . . . i know there's some great sex to be had out there. i have faith!

As far as I'm concerned there's no justification for his behavior other than possibly a lack of knowledge. Demand better treatment next time.

Next time, you come before he gets inside. Especially without experience coming from intercourse might not happen--but there are also hands and tongue, a gentleman does not leave his partner unsatisfied!

In the early days of our relationship there were some times she didn't come because she was too shy to accept a hand down there, but after that initial time of learning there's been only a few times in our 16 years together that she hasn't come and those have always been due to something interfering.

Did you go into it for the orgasm or did you to do it just to say you did it?

Also, from your original posting, I got the feeling that he finally convinced you to do it. Therefore, you was the one making the decision and had the power. If you knew you had the power going into it ... why didn't you ask him to eat you before the sex. That way you could have possibly got off (had the orgasm) before the sex or during the sex.

I"m sure you was nervous and it definitely gets better. However, I'm curious about how you thought going into it. Not your emotions (as in you being worried or excited), but what you wanted.


Dan


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hmmm... good questions Mr. Dan. let me see if i can answer them objectively. how did i want my first time to be? well of course i wanted to be seduced. i didnt want it to be planned. i wanted it to just kinda happen. yes you are right. i am the one that made the ultimate decision. and i have no regrets about that. i wanted to do it. you may wonder why i am 22 and just having sex for the first time. well for a long time it was a religious/moral issue that kept me waiting. but i guess you could say that i started to rethink things some what. i felt like i was waiting for the wrong reasons if that makes sense. and i also find myself to be a horny little girl. after much thought and deliberation i made the conscious decision that waiting till marriage wasnt what i wanted to do. i still believed that "love" was for somene special...but that sex was a little more carnal than that. (i realize that love+sex= a really great thing ... but i'm not there yet , and thats okay) ....so anyway...back to the sex. i wanted it to be more involved i suppose. not just a kiss, a few gropes, a bing and a bang, and thats all she wrote! ....am i making any sense here? yes i had some control in the situation....but i guess you could say i wasnt confident enough to take on that responsibility. and frankly i wasnt expecting it to be over that quickly..i thought i still had some time........i guess i was wrong. the thought that he was a man of ample experience and i was quite the rookie was very intimidating to me. like mentioned before i was concerned about living up to expectations, etc.

but what can i say...u live and u learn right? and really...him knowing it was my first time, i think he could have made some more efforts especially to spend time w/ me (there's more to that story as well...but anyway). but on the other hand..i wasnt going to be the "typical girl" and whine and cry about him hurting my feelings. so i will take the fall on that one too. oh well.

As I said before, the *ONLY* justification for his conduct is not knowing better and even that falls short on not spending time with you.

Find someone who wants you, not just a little piece of you.