Dude, seriously STFU and let it go. She's having a hard enough time right now. You were right. Woohoo. I hope you're happy, you won an internet argument :line:

You know maybe if some other people here would have been more honest with her about this situation she wouldn't be having such a hard time with her other situation. Everyone was more concerned with busting my balls and telling me how I was being a dick and not telling her that there *might* be a problem with her relationship she wouldn't be having such a hard time dealing with things.

There is no more destructive force in human affairs — not greed, not hatred — than the desire to have been right. Non-attachment to possessions is trivial when compared with non-attachment to opinions.
- Mark Kleiman

I just have to say that you really are good.

You have no idea ;)

I've got ideas myself but I'd be scared to death to share 'em. :rofl:

Johnny come latly is not saying anything either in the positive or negitive or in a horriablely misspelled manner.

me too. i am sorry that jude gave you such a hard time in this time when you are just asking for advice and kindness and compassion

In what way was I giving her a hard time?

Loren and I were the only ones to offer her an honest response not one designed only to make her feel better about a crappy situation. When a couple goes over a year without sex with no medical reason something is wrong with the relationship. Sure she sees it now but maybe if people had been a little more honest and less aimed at pointing out how I wasn't being a nice guy she could have seen this coming.

It also not entirely about being right either (I'll be honest it partially is), but about being honest with people. She came here with a situation, to which I offered my honest opinion, and what I felt were solutions to the problem. What I got in return were attacks on my relationship with my wife, name calling, and general rudeness. Sometimes people make the bad choices in life, or don't see the whole situation because they're in the middle of it. Sometimes it takes someone else, a friend or (rude) stranger on the internet, to point out the situation. Maybe I went about it in the wrong way, or could have said it in a different way. What doesn't change is someone needed to tell her that something was wrong with her relationship if there was no physical affection with in it.

As Oldfart pointed out earlier in this thread this forum is here to help people. Was anyone really helping her by letting her believe there was nothing wrong with her relationship?

But hey, if in the long run it turns out I was wrong, and everything turns out peachy keen, then great. But is it really a healthy relationship that goes over a year with no physical love?

Maybe it's not just what you said or how you said it, but how often you repeated it. It's okay to voice your opinion, rude as it may be, but then move on..Dont keep on and on. You were so bent on getting your point across (and you still are) that you were (and are) just irritating.

I doubt that's it since the accusations of rudeness started with the first post. Added to the fact that I said I would only respond as long as posts were directed at me.

Sorry Jude about before. I realised that perhaps that I went about the post the wrong way. Anyway, I think that maybe everyone should just let this go now, people are getting hot headed over what "so and so said" about this and that. Enough, all it is going to do is breed contempt in here and I think that is the last thing that we all need.

It's cool I wasn't offended, trust me I've been called worse and flamed harder for less.

Why can't people just let this go, what has been said, has been said so what certain people have been offended not only me, I know this because of the amount of pm's that I have recieved, everyone just please let it go!!!!