LixyChick |
12-31-2004 10:19 AM |
Welcum to the nutty world of Pixies, Violator!
18 is very young...even if you think you're more mature. Most peeps your age think they are "more mature beyond their years". We can't live beyond our years unless we experience the many things that older, more mature people have already experienced. Experience makes for maturity. And, even though you didn't mention your g/f's age, I suspect she is quite young and rather inexperienced as well...correct?
With that said...I have this advice for you. Live and Learn! There is no one magical secret to make ALL women orgasm. No decoder ring, no secret handshake, no prayer to the gods, no dance in the light of the full moon...none of that! All women are different. Like snowflakes, we might have the same physical properties but, no two are exactly alike! Even identical twins can have discerning differences that set them completely apart from one another.
With time and experimentation you'll discover that one thing, one day, will make for a good orgasm...and then the very next day she might not like it anymore. It's not all about the final goal (though the final goal is precious and good). It's about what feels good in the moment and how comfortable and enjoyable it all is in the moment. If you put pressure on yourself, and then therefore her, to "make her cum"...it's not enjoyable anymore. They tell couples who are trying to have a baby, but can't get pregnant..."relax and it'll happen". Sorry to use that example...fore lack of a better one at the moment...but, RELAX and she'll eventually orgasm. Believe it or not, we [women] can enjoy making love even if we don't have a "grand finale". The more comfortable we are in a moment...the more enjoyable the final outcome...no matter the outcome.
Just go with the flow hun...relax and enjoy every part of your g/f and let her enjoy every part of you. Drink in her beauty and appreciate all of her. Tell her that her touch feels "sooooooooo good". Touch her tenderly, till she tells you "harder". Touch her firmer at times, tills she tells you "softer". Tease her pussy with your tongue, and then move along up or down her body...till she tells you to get back to it. If it's lasting an hour and she isn't enjoying it any more than in the beginning...move along! Go fast...then slow down...or vice-versa. Ask her if you are going too slow or too fast. DON'T pressure her to know, and then tell you, what your next move should be. She may not know till you do it. Instead, ask her if what you've already done is something she'd like you to continue. Look for body language that says..."that feels good" or "I wish he'd move on" or "OUCH" or "mmmmmmmmmmmmmm". She may not be able to verbalize some things for her own personal reasons (shyness, religious upbringing, never having experienced it...etc.), but her body might tell you anyway. Observe, experiment and enjoy...without pressure on yourself and/or her to "make" it happen.
In essence...DON'T TRY TO BE A PORN STAR TILL YOU'VE ACTUALLY BEEN A PORN STAR! Might surprise you, just how much you have to learn!!!!!!
Hope this helps! And may I say, I'm happy to see you posting and hope to see you round the boards!
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