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Originally Posted by WildIrish

When my grandfather got home from work at 5:00 every day (because nothing going on at work was more important than coming home to his wife and family) my grandmother had dinner on the table for him. Now before you freak out and start screaming about how sexist that was, remember what I said earlier. She had dinner waiting for him because she wanted to. He would never have been upset over something like dinner. She did it because she cared about him.

So much truth in WI's comment here. For years before I retired, I always had to go into work early. My wife always made sure she was awake to either make me breakfast or just to kiss me goodbye. That act of love meant more to me than a zillion of anything else.

For myself, I do not honestly believe I've ever said a mean spirited word about my wife to anyone else. Even when we've had bad times ... and we have ... she's always been my princess to the rest of the world. In fact, she was to me to ... even when we've got problems. I remember really getting upset one time (who knows why?) and so I took off in a huff thinking I'd stop at a bar or something. I didn't. I went into work and then called her so she'd know where I was. Didn't stay long and was back home to be with her. :)

love, forgive and fight fairly. stay on point of argument, no past arguments brought up, no past actions, only theproblem at hand. avoid the word why because it elicits an emotional response. ask a child why they broke the window and excuses will flow. ask the same child how the window came to be broken and you'll probably hear that the ball was hit and went through the window. last for now, LISTEN AND ASSUME PARTNERS WORDS HAVE VALUE!!

In high school I took a Family Living class and one day two kids quit playing footise long enough to listen to the Rules of Marriage be explained.

1. aways tell each other I love you at least 3 times a day (when you forget to do this over a period of time love may fade away)
2. Never leave the house during an argument (what if something happened to one of you the other one would never forgive themselves)
3 never go to bed mad at each other, talk it out key word TALK not yell (besides making up is fun)
4. the silent treatment never solved a problem, only talking can do that.
5 It takes a 110% from both of you to make it work.
6. when you realise you mate is your best friend then you have a successfull marriage.

We have had our ups and downs over the years these rules won"t solve every thing but they sure do help keep small problems from getting bigger! Its worked for us for 31 yrs. On our 25th wedding aniv. we sent that teacher a Thank You card.

Good Luck and the best of wishes