jennaflower,

I too cannot see how to include an emotional component to a "fuck buddy".

its is human nature to feel bonds to those we experience intense situations with. There are those who have learned ways to wall against those bonds. Kissing, simultaneous orgasm, nuzzling, snuggling, the sweet tiny featherlight kisses, the kisses on the forehead and the top of the head, all tend to help with bonding. Looking into the others eyes during an orgasm can as well. I've lately learned that I myself apparently a while back learned to ask for interactions that help me brick the wall to keep away the bonds. It's not failproof and enough of the bond enhancing items can overcome the wall { sound track .... TEAR DOWN THE WALL!!!}

for me I've recently learned that a good deal of me pain and abject submission enjoyment are mostly just bricks in the wall. that the more pain and subjugation I encourage on myself the easier it is for me to drive home alone and not miss the patrner the pain leaves me comfortably numb.

I had a master who would fly down south on business call, tell me the number of his hotel room and leave instructions to call when I reached the lobby. He had a fiancee, I was otherwise involved, but neither of us was happy where we were. We fucked and I would leave immediately. The day he greeted me with strawberries and champagne I knew he was having trouble. His guilt was getting the better of him.

He was someone I fucked, not a fuck buddy. a fuck buddy is someone you'd go out maybe shoot pool with and decide we're both single and horny, lets fuck.

just my 2 cents.
all we are is bricks in the wall

Fuck buddy always seemed to be exactly what it says to me. A buddy you fuck which would make it synonymous with the term friend with benefits. I've never had one, and hopefully will never have one. I'm not against the idea, I just don't think it'd be good for me or the other person in the long run. Better to have just a one night stand than an ongoing sexual relationship. Eventually, one or the other would end up with someone that they want something more with and that leaves the other out to dry. Or worse, the person left behind realizes what they had and wants to be with the person they can no longer have.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ smart kid

Are there people in your life who you love and respect - even like being around - but feel no need to possess? The people who you like, but with some missing feature that makes them an unsuitable full-time mate?

I don't believe in sex without feeling...better just go ahead and masturbate (it's more sanitary). I do believe that I can love someone, share my body with them, but not need to possess them for life.

i was her fuck buddy. but,i love her more than i can handle to be a fuckbuddy. it's the kiss.

*cue shoop shoop girls

What she said, exactly...my FWB definition.

:)

YAY! I think I have one!

ah but the emotional aspect - i have given this a try three times and each time it ended up with some sort of emotional entangelment whether its was friendship - something a little more and soon u end up privy to more than you should and often wanting more than you should. while it begins as i sort know u lets hang put and fuck i cant seem to really keep it there.

I've done this before...and it's just what I need right now :)

umm nope i married mine

There is one person in my life that fits this description perfectly, and he is the only person I could seriously think about having as a fuck buddy.

Several months ago I felt I could have gone in for emotionless sex but I think I was kidding myself. As others have posted, I think that realistically I would not be able to keep the emotional aspect out of it. The guy I referred to above has enough love and respect back for me as I him, that I think it could work if we were fuck buddies. Anyone else, I'm not so sure.

A one-night stand or a short fling would feel less of a problem because there's not that risk involved of losing a valued friend should things go tits up.

No.
Does anyone here NEED a fuck buddy??

I need affection more than I need a fuck buddy. Lack of affection, mental and physical, is harder on me than lack of sex. Both have been missing for a long time but the sex part I can fulfill to a certain extent myself.

uhhhhh.....I'll take that as a " no " :kisser:

:p


:x:

with one u risk the other

Well, there are different definitions....I consider a person that I like, as in have a good time with, want to have sex with, but do not want a romantic relationship with to be a fuckbuddy :)

Sadly i do have a few onlder and younger then me. I guess i can say i'm single so it's not a worry in that respect the younger one is single too actually hes much younger then me.. but he doesnt look it and him and i have been well past 6 years it's been special in that essence... the older one is Married.. but he's mature older.

Naturally i do this until i settle down as i'm not married not in a relationship i can fool around.. once i find the man to settle down with then.. well then i will give up the flings for the "REAL DEAL", but to be honest i would prefer to settle with the one then have many, few years back had a number of bad boys when i got broke up over my engagement but now i dont abuse myself that much.. just regular fucks now, althought i'm looking into dox matrix so we'll see?? problem is i get bored with the same old so unless they can keep me mentally entertained i go elsewhere... thus why holding a relationship has been difficult.

Mine has batteries...lol!

perfect huh??? no complainin'....no whinin'.....no "fallin' asleep".....just straight up FUCK BUDDY!!!!!........lol :)

think u got this one right. your forget they dont stand you up either lol

:thumb: I'll second/third this :D

ok ok....lets not get carried away girls!!!!

It's not always easy to restrain oneself when working a bullet in one hand and a glass dildo in the other ;)

wow!!!.....carry on!!!

:confused: I've had a few over the years but my longest lasting fuck buddy would be a doctor i met 6 years ago. We haven't hooked up in almost a year but I've had some pretty memorable occasions with him. Now we mostly talk about work (since we are both in the medical profession) and I go to him for medical advice usually before going to my own doctor. We do occasionally talk about hooking up again, and trying out our fantasies on each other. But I have a feeling that is just talk...I seem to chicken out last minute for some reason. I've been feeling a little self conscious. :confused:

No fuck buddy, but I do phonesex part time - does that count?

It all counts if it's pleasing for you. ;)

I have had a fair number over the years, but currently not. They have been some of the best friends/lovers I have ever had.