| AZRedHot |
10-22-2006 02:55 PM |
I can come 2 or 3 times per session, but I don't always need to. I read a book on the Tao of sex, and it suggested that you need a 30-second or so break of only very mild stimulation once you come off the high before you start climbing again. I've found that to be accurate for me, so I just kind of rest, moving very slowly (like if I'm astride) so that I don't shift gears into "done" mode, and then it goes from there. If I try to power through, with a partner or on my own, I can rub for an hour and get nowhere, rubbing myself raw in the process--the break is key.
I have to say, as much as I've appreciated the generosity of my lovers in trying to get me to 2 or 3 or more, sometimes it's a burden. Sex is not a competitive sport. There's a fine line between generosity, which is lovely, and ego, which is less so. I think men sometimes get into the mindset that they're superstuds if they can get you to come more than once a session, and it becomes about them instead of you. And that's where female performance anxiety comes in--if he's invested in a specific out-come, pun intended, of sex, then you feel like he'll be disappointed if you don't. Sometimes, though, I just want to get off the horse after one. If I didn't think you were a superstud to begin with, we wouldn't be naked together, you know? The fact that we're having sex at all means you won. :)
Just because women are known to be multiorgasmic doesn't mean they have to be, or that it's a standard they must try to attain. SweetLady's right.
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