thanks to you all for the advice and insight. i appreciate it :D

jumping on the bandwagon a bit late here but, hey, I just joined a bit ago and this is only like my third visit to this area...always seem to find myself stuck in the story area for some reason, dangit!

Anyway, I won't rehash the important points of foreplay and safe sex. I think you've received plenty of good advice in that area. However, a point that's been missed, I think, is the importance of COMMUNICATION.

By now, I'm sure, you have an idea of what makes you feel good or not so you shouldn't be afraid to let your partner know what he/she needs to do in order to make things better for you. You can express these things with subtle signs such as a sigh, pleasurable little moan or by coming right out anf telling him that whatever he's doing feels good and should keep going. And if he isn't on the ball and misses these small clues just come right out and tell him what you'd like him to do. Sex, after all, is supposed to be enjoyable for both people, not just the guy, so don't be scared to let him know what you'd like or want to try. After all, if someone comes to remodel your house you wouldn't just say, "here's my house..have at it!" and let them run about whilly-nilly and you shouldnt do the same where sex is concerned.

And in regards to him leaving 20 minutes after "he" was done....what the hell was that? I know I'm ignorant to the background information but it sounds to me like he was just trying to get himself a piece of "virgin pussy" and didn't really care about you're first experience or feelings.

But hey...that's just my opinion and I've been wrong before.

First off, like Whitehorse said, "Don't give up.. we're not ALL like that!"

I feel bad for you, it not being anything like it should have been for your first time! Doesn't sound to me like this guy was very experienced AT ALL... OK, he may have had sex with a few/lot of girls, but as he showed, that DOESN'T necessarily make him any good!! And as far as leaving after 20 minutes... well, I know you said there's "more to that story", but IMHO he needs his ass kicking for that alone!!

Apart from the sex itself (WHEN it's good!) I think the cuddling up afterwards is just the best feeling there is.. unless we've done it somewhere that we CAN'T cuddle (like in the kitchen or somewhere!) the Angel and I ALWAYS cuddle.. usually til we fall asleep!!

*Gets down off his soapbox*

I hope your next time (and there WILL be a next time, won't there?!) your partner is much more thoughtful and loving (BTW, you can be loving, but not IN love.... though both is GREAT!!) so you can experience sex the way it SHOULD be... it'll blow your mind!! :D

DM

Texas Treasure
 

Let me tell you a secret TexasTreasure ...
If youre cute and horny - and I think you are - I strongly suggest finding a cute guy that jumps when you call. The type that would be more than a friend, but less than a boyfriend. You could practice with him, tell him how you want to be licked and everything else. If you're calling the shots and you trust him ... why not?? As long as it's done in a safe way.

I went throught this and it works. I was in the 4th grade, but it was only oral and alot of kissing and exploring. Yes I submitted to my lustful needs in the 4th grade. She had several hiding places and easy rules to follow. It was great.


Dan
Private Questions and Comments

Mr. Dan99NY.....you make me laugh. I am certain what u are saying is true...and would be all in good fun, which i'm not opposed to...but still...lol...oh my

You have to have hidding places. That's why it was so much fun. Also, you need the kind of guy that takes directions well.

In the 4th grade, she used me and I liked it. In the long run, I learned alot and had good memories. If you do this I strongly suggest creating rules that protect the whole system. So you can do it over and over again.


What part of this plan makes you hesitate?

Dan


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Sorry to post so late, but i agree with JillyJill...
Its all about communication.

but hey, if he wont listen to ya i live in Austin(wink wink)
LOL