This is interesting since I have been married a long time and still she doesn't want to receive oral sex. Some times ontop of panites. Maybe a 2-3 times in more than 10 years. A bit more but not much on the bj.

Don't understand. I thought the girls like to have their pussies eaten. I keep reading that if a guy eats pussy he is a keeper. What about us that like it and can't get it.

What should we do, short of divorce... though that is not to far out there?

thats exactly what im trying to figure out

Rushing her is the worst thing you can do. Mention it every once in a while. She will come around, just give it time.

The only thing that comes to mind is a big session with some

flavoured edible oil and a plastic sheet.

Slip sliding and groping and eating is an excellent way over

some hurdles.

May not work, but fun trying.

I like giving and receiving oral but I've had some girlfriends who think both are disgusting. It could be the way they're raised. I know one friend thought she had the ugliest vagina in the world. I never saw it, but thought she was overreacting . . . I guess you'll have to practice patience?

Interesting issue


Why don't you ask her?

Andrew

Why dont you just both talk it out? If she really doesnt want to then there's nothing you can do.

I think it's all the porn movies these days that make all men think that women love to give head and drink cum, and those that don't are either too religious or just plain weird. I don't like it and neither do a few of my friends, though I do it mainly because my boyfriend likes it. It just tastes bad.

I think i might be able to add something here: I have had a few hang-ups with oral sex, but have been doing my best to get over them and at age 24 i'm in the 'young persons' category too.

I used to be really self conscious about having my pussy eaten and i honestly didn't believe that a man could like the taste. My earlier experiences of sex confirmed this: My first boyfriend couldn't bring himself to do it.

ALSO, he was a big blow job fan and i realise now that he kind of pushed me into doing that before i was ready and once i'd done it once, i didn't feel i could say no. I started to get really anxious nasty feelings attached to the act and ended up hating doing it. Perhaps she would enjoy you eating her once she'd relaxed a bit, but perhaps she knows that she'd then feel obliged to do the same for you. We women put pressure on ourselves when it comes to sex and end up in situations we can't handle. I have now got over both of my hang-ups but the blow job one was only sorted about a month ago after giving one to a completely new guy and loving it. I now have a rule with blow jobs. I won't give one if i'm asked for one and i won't take oral sex if i have to ask for it. It means so much more if your partner is doing it because they really want to.

My advice is don't even mention oral sex for a couple of months. Chances are if she stops feeling like you it's a really big deal, she'll trust you more and be happy to make her own baby steps towards it all by herself. That certainly worked for me, anyway.

Hope it works out for you, hun. x

thanks everyone, this post has really helped my out, im just gonna stay patient and wait it out, and just see what happens