Princess......At 19 MOST, (and I say most cause I don't know all men but from the ones I do I say), most men are one great big hormone. I truly don't know if there is a medical or psychological reason for the "lack-a-wanna" thing happening to your boyfriend. It may behoove you to suggest that he seek medical attention as it may be a mild case of depression or a chemical imbalance that has his testosterone level low. I don't mean to suggest that there IS a major problem. There may be NO problem at all for that matter. But if this continues and he shows less and less interest and you want to stay together I am just suggesting that it may be a minor medical problem that can be handled before it becomes a major problem.

As I stated in a response above, my ex had 2 ex's before me and I feel now that maybe I should have questioned them (his ex's) as to if the problem I had with him existed with them as well. You may want to seek an answer from someone your boyfriend dated before you.....just a thought hun!

I am sorry to go on about this as if it were the end of the world but I do feel like something is amiss if......at the blossoming age of 19 your boyfriend has said no to you more than yes. SOMETHING...albeit I can't put my finger on it.....but something is askew in this picture. If he is any kind of man he will probably refuse to seek medical attention (as my man will always refuse till the minor is a major). This shouldn't deter you from telling him you care enough to ask for help.

As to "feeling like such a baby compared to us"........think of it this way.........We here at Pixies range in age....I am gonna say from about 18-60......give or take. We all have different experiences and if one can help another we are glad to do it, no matter what the age of the person asking or recieving the help. You are more mature than you give yourself credit from what I read in this thread.

Good luck hun!!!!

Mrs. Lix

My husband did the same thing "saying NO if I suggested it" in the first few years of our life together. Every time I asked or initiated it was an automatic NO! This killed me because I felt undesirable and would try harder. So then I stopped trying and he started asking/initiating and we would have sex. But as soon as I asked I would still get a NO. Well, now I initiate but in an odd way and it has worked for us. He will come home and I will say I don't want sex today so please just leave me alone. Like a child with reverse psychology, over he would come kissing my neck and so on. Now after being married for almost 10 years I have told him what I do to get it when I want it and he laughs and says he has always known.
I still feel it was/is a power trip for him. I say whatever works. Good Luck figuring out what will work for the two of you.
-Summer :D

Let's see. My wife always seems to get completely horny on Sunday afternoons in the fall. MMMM, gee it seems to be the same time I sit down to watch football. So yes, I have said no to sex. And guys, don't try going for it at halftime. By then, the mood is over. Of course if I was really horny, I have acquiesced.
Except during the playoffs!

LOL

But for the most part, I usually never say no. Oh wait, unless the Sopranos are on then ... fuugggeeedddaaabbboooouuddddiittt!!!

Don't know if this answered the question.

CK