heheh..I love this place...good advice and let me tell you...this is a problem both women and MEN have. If you look else where on this borad you will see I had the same problem...dont think about it at all. My gf tried for MONTHS to get me off..and then one day we were just playing around..and whooppsss...messy couch..we didnt plan on it...we were just making out..and yeah...BTW, you should realax too. If you are trying then you wont preform the way you want to, and thus, you and her will both get mad (you for not doing what you do best, and her because you are upset)

Keep one last thing in mind...its not all about the sex, but the time you spend with her. If she knows your not in it for the bump n grind, she will break down the fears and then..well yeah! Ok, Im off my soap box now...happy fornications!