Fang

I too can sympathize my daughter was diagnosed with ADD she's 25 now but even though she had help I can't help but feel I failed her for not doing more now my son who is 19 is studying at BU for theoretical Physics he's doing fine but ask him to build a square box good luck .... my daughter however can just my :2cents: PM me with any further concerns though I think that Lil ,Tess and all gave you pretty good advice


Mike

Thanx for the advice and, even for just listening *hugz all*

I've made an appointment with another school (flexi schooling), i dunno if that will make much difference though. But gawd i hope so.

He says he is going to school, but i bloodywell know he isnt, i ring or drop into the school to check. He rang me earlier today say he was going, he was to be home sick as he had a temperature and looked not well. My bullshit meter went on high alert, so i dropped by the school on my way home, guess who, AGAIN, wasnt at school, caught the bus in, arrived at school, but then took off. So my son is wandering the city around fuck knows where, with fuck knows who, doing fuck knows what!!

And all this after we had a good chat and he promised me he would go to school, and he would try not to worry me anymore. Pffttt, shows how much he cares for me or anyone else.

His lies are out of control, his attitude is the freaking pits, and i'm at a loss at what to do to turn him around to be honest.

Anyway i'll tackle the school thing first.

I have a number for a councilor, i'm hoping to be able to drop in to the office tomorrow to find out more about that.

Not gonna do much good though if he doesnt want to help himself *sigh*

Does the young one have a reason for avoiding school, bullying by peers or teachers or such?

I found out last night, that yes he does appear to have a reason for not wanting to go to school. Bullying is a big issue at this school, even if they wont admit it. Apparently kids are waiting for him from the bus stop and continue to harrass him all day, and a few of them live near home, soooooo i'll be visiting their parents i think, especially one young lad parental units. Most of the bullies hunt in packs, but this kid is constantly looking to fight my youngest, after him at all times, even though my son swears he has done nothing to this boy, soooo i will be finding out a bit more and confronting the lad and the lads parents.

After doing some more research on the new school i'm looking at, chances are this is where he will go, 1600 students to a more relaxed 20-30 students is a far better option as far as i'm concerned.

If I may make a suggestion about you talking with the parents. Make sure the kids aren't involved. More or less make them aware of the situation so they can take action and make it clear that telling who tattled will only make things worse. I was one of the bullied in school and anytime my Mom talked to the other kids' parents they always told who told on them. So they just made it worse later.

I dont care if the little shit knows who told, this is not normal bullying by a long shot. I was also bullied at school, but what i got and what kids have to deal with now a quite different. I will be making it quite clear to both the kid and the kids parents that anyone laying a violent hand on my son will be charged with assault. I'm thoroughly over these little thugs.

These seem past the point of youthful antics, this is aggravated assault.

When I posted I was under the impression that it was standard bullying. Not them beating the snots out of your kid.

Mind you, a kid shouldn't unreasonably hang onto his snots.

No, but he should be allowed to pick or blow them out. Not have them forcefully removed.

There is a difference between picking a fight and picking a snot.

Depends how tough the snot is i spose

ok in my day we as kids were to a certain extent were allowed to work the beating of snot out among ourselves ... now me with a handicap I beat the crap out of one of the toughest kids in class put him in his place and elevated me several levels Today I know its all different the best advice would be sit your son down and tell him he's better that that ...... aww shoot take the offending kid where no one can see and beat him silly I mean your son not you today the talking to is the better choice hope this helps

Well the saga continues *sigh*

Looks like my son will be at the least suspended from school for the rest of the year....or quite possibly expelled...

Decided to do another hookey day with another student, a 'friend', and the other student decided to do some stealing, my son stayed there so is now just as guilty by association. Now that they have been caught the 'friend'(whom i warned my son about) is pointing the finger at my son and saying he did it.

Anyway, now just waiting to see if charges will be laid, if so, my son is about to meet the police in an official capacity *sigh*

I hope this was a 'petty theft' type thing. If so, this may turn to be a good thing in learning there ARE rules that have to be followed and WILL be enforced by an authority who DOESN'T love me in spite of what I do, like 'Mum'. :shrug: