That's wonderful Lil! :)

I didn't become confident in my abilities until just recently...but I think I had a sexual coming of age around 17/18 or so. During my earlier teen years I think I saw sex as more of a game, something to do to make yourself seem more like an adult. :rolleyes2 of course that's a completely absurd thought to me now, and I hope that if I ever have children that they don't go through that.

Around 17, I realized that you didn't have sex or give boys blowjobs to IMPRESS people, and at the same time I began to view sex as what it really is and SHOULD be. Does that make any sense?? That was my sexual coming of age.

I have a very relaxed and natural attitude toward sex and always have, so I'm able to keep a more innocent attitude about the entire thing.

Unfortunately, my "coming of age" (or is that cumming of age?) didn't happen until last year with the split. Da ex was about as sexual as a bowl of oatmeal!!!! In my head, I was the sexual creature i am now, but i think years of oatmeal sorta squelched that. And add to it, his obvious abuse....and top it all off with the way he acted about my bisexuality......it was all just a mess.
Early last year, I was lucky enough to have a brief relationship with a man that let me be me between the sheets......come to think of it, he let me be me in everything and that right there may have been the key. Since then, I no longer hide my sexuality and with that, both the confidence and the attention from others has increased. Osuche is right, there is a loop to it all. And sumpin else i've noticed, the more that you are a freely sexual creature (and i don't mean by screwing everybody in sight, just in attitude), the more open and comfortable others become around you. A couple of months ago, four of us girls from the office went away for a weekend to a beer festival.....after the festival, we went to a bar and started playing truth or dare... and all the questions were of a sexual nature.....one of the questions asked to me was if i had ever been with a woman....man, oh man, did they all get real interested when i quite freely said yes and that i loved it......asked alllllll kinds of questions about it, wanted some details.......but up till then, i woulda sworn that they would have been of the "ewwwww" variety about same sex stuff.