Does this mean I have to pretend to be intelligent? :confused:

<--- was worried about that ^^^. ;)

If you pretend your only desire is to rip my clothes off and sex me up, I'll pretend you're intelligent. Deal? :D

You're gonna be working a lot harder than me. lmao

LMFAO :grin:

Whilst not romantic love, other primates (gorillas for example) have a single dominant male who tend to a covy of females. Wolves and mountain sheep do it. This behavior has been assumed to be a method of optimizing the species strength by assuring the strongest males' genes get passed along. Maybe they are just smarter.

I know I can love more than one woman at a time. I think (in the US) our christian dominated moral directives supress love. I'm not sure why.

Perhaps an impossible question Kendall.

I'm not sure I really know what Love is, let alone complicating the issue with it being romantic.

Someone I loved to the point distraction at 17, I don't now - so it isn't eternal. In that state of love, I can't imagine being able to love someone else at the same time. It would have been heartbreaking and mentally destructive - for me.

But things change as you grow - so who knows - que sera sera.

I personally do think it's possible to love more than one at the same time. I think the human heart is about as untapped as the human mind. The ability to let yourself love more than one is a rare thing, i think. And what you have in one relationship can either hinder or help or not have a darned thing to do with any others. That's entirely up to the individual's make up, perhaps. Each is a grand and unique gift.

Interesting thought Vigil. I guess I tend to believe that love is a feeling -- which can remain constant (I still love my first serious boyfriend, and have since I was 13). However, being "in love" is more about compatability, compromise, and hard work. That makes it much more selective.

I have exgirlfriends that I don't hold love for anymore. Not because of terribly breakups, but because after growing up, I see the relationships for what they were...adolescent coupling and attempts to explore the world of love. I've also had a girlfriend pass away in an auto accident while we were dating. That was much more difficult to analyze because we were in love when it happened, so we didn't have a final note to define our relationship by. I do think of her with love in my heart, but I also understand that we were young and odds indicate that we wouldn't have ended up together in the long run...but I'll never know. There's always that nagging question "what if".

I love Mrs. WI. She is a beautiful person, a wonderful wife and mother, and a yin to my yan. (OMG...I'm Yan! Anyone else remember that cooking show "Yan can cook" ?) The experiences I've had in past relationships have probably had their effect (positive and negative) on our marriage, but they're learning experiences...not relationship hurdles.

I also deeply feel that I can love another without diminishing the love I have for my wife. I guess it all boils down to how each person thinks, feels and acts when they're presented with the situation.

We would on this site make good hippies in that case. Except for one thing. Some of us don't have enough hair!

I love alot of people, in alot of different ways. There's always room in my heart to love someone else... a new friend, another child...

But when it comes to truly being IN love, I am a one-man-woman. My little planet revolves around his sun, and that's the fact of it. I fall in love from the top of my head to the tip of my toes, and I can only give everything of myself to one at a time. Far too confusing for my literal mind to even consider otherwise.

However, I did vote that I think it's possible to be romantically involved with more than one man at a time. I just don't see it as being something that would work for me.

I think that people's perspectives change over time as well as their capacities for certain things. Personally, there's no way that I could have romantically loved more than one person when I was younger. But then, I could have eaten a whole extra larger, double topping, everything on it pizza all by myself. Now days, I eat until I'm satisfied, which is a lot LESS than it used to be, and I love until I'm satisfied, which is a lot MORE than it used to be. Not that everyone's capacities change, or that they even should. But for some of us, they do, and we need to learn to love and accept that in ourselves. Bottom line, as long as you're happy, then it's all good, and nobody should be judgemental because we're all different. And anyway...you know what they used to say in the good ol' days...The plural for spouse, is spice!