I went thru that stage in my thirty somethings. After my first marriage I was partying hard and after being cheated on I didn't have a very good attitude. It was all about challenge to me. After I got what I wanted they became boring very quickly. Had lots of one nite stands. But I also learned alot about men. You'd be surpised how many men are attracted to a woman that doesn't want to be tied down as opposed to those who are looking for a home life. Believe me you're treated entirely different. It was fun having the upper hand but it was also lonely as hell.

Sex for fun vs. sex for "other reasons"
 

I'm not into "bad boys and girls"
I am not at all attracted to mean, nasty, RUDE selfish people.
I know it surprises some in this forum to learn how picky I am about who I fuck. (I am using fuck as general term for sex here, including sexual encouters with other women, and brief "oral" relationships and one time quickies) especially when they think about how many sexual partners I have had, but I AM choosy!
But I do not have to consider someone as "relationship material" in order to have fun.
I am sure that I have had sex of some kind with people who were not nice, (there have been some situations that I am not going to go into here, where it was ok with me and my partner) but it was just sex!
During a date, if he (or she) bores me with opppresive, tiring, hostile stuff, then I don't care how attractive you are, or how many drinks I have had, rude mean boring people don't make for good sex.
Now!!!
(struggles to climb her soap box)

Why does Martha Stewart need to be hurt?
I know she is an icon for gay men and straight women, and most women I know just admire her sucess in a world not very friendly to business women, but really!
"Needs to be butt fucked"?
I mean, if the suggestion wasn't meant as hostile, but the idea that she needs to loosen up sexually, and not take money stuff so seriously, then I agree, but she has had her whole life ruined, and really needs to be left alone.

(looks down from her soapbox and sighs, such a long way down for a tiny person with a morning -after headache)

Wanda

WW---I,personally,have not liked MS for years,because she is so mean to people,+years ago,I read in a Sunday Magazine Section,of the newspaper,
that she gives nothing to any charity.I don't know if this is correct but I thought,at the time,"How can you have,that much money & not give to the
needy?"As someone here,once said,If you can't say anything nice,don't say
anything.The ONLY reason that I said this,was that you brought it up. Irish
P.S. My $.02.By the way,I thought that the,-Fuck her in the butt,comment,
was ,totally, uncalled for.That's just me!

Yep Yep Yep....prolly could fuck em..... and if they talked too much, well, hell, isn't that what gags are for? :eek:

The reason I said what I did about Martha Stewart is NOT because I want to "hurt" her...I just can't stand her, that's all. Too damn uptight...! The f'in' her up the ass thing...well, nevermind! :)

Well, that does explain why so many women aren't interested in anal sex. Because it's said as a "she needs to be fucked up the ass" derogatory thing. If you'd like women and your partner to become more open to the idea, maybe not use it as a hostile and/or degrading comment?

I mean, should I admit now that I like anal, after seeing it used as a statement meant to hurt and humiliate? Or should I think that if my partner is willing to give me anal sex, he is only willing to because he secretly wants to hurt or humiliate me, instead of just another way of giving and recieving pleasure? (Not true in my case, but if my partner were to say something like that, I'd NEVER admit to liking it, EVER, after that.)

My 2cp.

Overgeneralizing anything anyone says is not a good idea.

The question at hand was if you are capable of having sex with someone who may have little or no appeal to you other than sexual and many members have said that they can put many of their opinions and feelings aside for a good quick fuck so long as that is all there is to it.

Some have also said they couldn't/wouldn't fuck someone they could not consider worthy of a relationship. I think I fall in that category. Where as I could torture just about anyone, I'd only chain the ones I really like to the dungeon walls;)

WOW. Now that's a woman for you! (Sorry, just generalizing...). Where did you get all that from??? What I said was the MARTHA STEWART is UPTIGHT - a good butt-humpin' would be good for her. PERIOD. Nothing more, nothing less. It has nothing to do with being derogatory towards women - it has everything to do with "loosening her up"!!!

And for the record, my wife LOVES anal sex. She's got no issues with it. I don't recall ever saying anything about having problems there...???

Don't read so deep into things...!

Just comes off derogatory to say anal sex is something to do to someone you don't like to loosen them up.

I'm looking for a mate who has my ideals lately. Anyone know a left-wing vegetarian who needs some loving? :)

Me, but that doesn't really help you :p

People do stuff with their butts? :confused:

I'll have to look into this. :D


I need an emotional connection to have sex. No respect...you're not getting my tiny Irish sausage! Sorry. You can be a bitch to anyone you want, and even to me. But you have to respect me in the morning.

My problem is *I* have to respect me in the morning.

Damn...see, that's where I always go wrong! Nobody want's to carve "dumbass" into their headboard.

I hated that woman
 

At my first real job out of college I was a manager at a nicer restaurant downtown. The general manager was several years older than me, and I absolutely hated everything about her except her unbelievable body. Her managment style was demeaning and abrasive. I was called into her office on a number of occasions so she could share her philosophy with me and tell me what an immature screw-up I was. Every meeting ended with name calling, shouting, and, ironically, wild and rugged sex. We never dated, never spoke civilly to each other outside of her office, and looked for ways to get each other in trouble with the owner. But I have never had such great, unihibited sex in my life!