cyberkitten, the comments above are all good, you must do what YOU are comfortable with. The only other comment that I have is a suggestion for another very good lube that I found to be helpful to me...as I too have had serious pain involved in anal. The lube is called Anal Ese and it is sold at good sex stores. It has an ingrediant that is slightly numbing. No you will not lose all sensation but it is numbing enough to help you relax, for me it helped me to realize that pain does not have to be involved and the pleasure is wonderful. Just remember, take your time and don't forget to talk to your partner, but it doesn't sound like that is a problem for you :) Good luck sweetie!

http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/aanal.html

That site is very informative.

But to tell the truth the thing that helped my wife really enjoy anal sex was the book "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women", by Tristan Taurmino. That book will help eliviate any fears or concerns you might have about anal sex, I would highly reccomend getting it and reading it WITH your partner. It's important that he know what to do.

The biggest mistake I can see you made was being drunk, while playing around. Anal sex requires more trust and tenderness than vaginal sex. If you're drunk it dulls your senses and it's harder for you to tell if he's hurting you, which can lead to some severe problems later. Plus if he's drunk he is more likely not to stop if you tell him to.

this man taught me EVERYTHING i know about anal pleasure!

i am not kidding. i love this guy, i'd so fuck him. and GIRLS OH MY GOD he has a nice cock!

:D you're too kind to me Jen.

LOL!!! Good call :)

CasperTG