funny, my answer to this question is all of the above ..... AND ....

women don't have to be aggressive when the men are being aggressive .... but, I will say that when I've wanted to cyber with someone I have taken the initiative .... mainly with positive results .... it's how I've made some of my closest male friends from the site. :)

Not all of the men on Pixies are aggressive PM'ers _ I for example don't feel happy PM someone out of the blue that often. I have PM some members but not with anything heavy. Maybe thats why my inbox is always empty LOL.