but i found anbesol in the medicine cabinet and that is 20 percent benzocaine instead of the 7.5 percent in the delay cream so i am gonna try that as well as use more toys on my wife--just bought her two--the rabbit ivibe and a waterproof one called the dolphin--cant wait to see

Try doing the 19 times table when you think that you are approaching that point of no return.

lol--i will try that

something that worked for me, i dont know if works for anyone else, when i was 16/17 i used to cum quickly, not like get in there and its done but the sex didnt exactly last long, all i did was for i dunno about a year, start quite slowly then build your way up to your previous speed and beyond, see my girlfriend enjoys long rough sex (shes a bit of a slut with few moral restraints ;)) before i started this thing it would be short rough sex, but now its alot longer because ive wiened (is that how u spell it) myself into gaining that much pleasure through the preferred sex. for me it was about self control.

OH bite your tongue BIBI and move on........

I can't, I tried and I can't do it!

Porn_King why do you refer to your girlfriend in such a manner? I find it very disrespectful to her and other women. I don't want to start anything....I am just curious.

cos thats the way she refers to herself, she loves people talking dirty about her and everything

i think her reasoning of it is that it makes her feel good about herself in a sexual kind of way cos shes a defined person ie a "slut" and not just a normal person - i believe thats her way of looking at it

i dont really understand it myself

Well I'll be damned, I've finally found something that can't be fixed with duct tape. I don't care how sadistic, how horny, how stupid, it just straight up don't matter, NO ONE is gonna fuck themselves or allow themselves to be fucked by something made with duct tape.

Cabanah,
One technique I found very useful, and I wish wish wish I could remember where I saw it was t oslow down your breathing. If you've ever done yoga (or lamaze for that matter) one of the things that you work on is breathing to address pain, in my best days i can get past a bad headache with it. Well the same things works apparently with pleasure. If you can focus on breathing slowly and deeply you can slow the orgasm, while sacrificing none of the pleasure (m wife was actually turned on by the eavy breathing) a couple of other things helped too, touching and caressing her alot, focusing on her will keep yo ufom getting to the end too quickly, and lastly, keep your muscles relaxed, legs especially, you'll note that approaching and during orgasm you usually tense in the feet and legs (at least I do) if you can keep loose, the orgasm will be delayed this isusually easiest for me with her on top. I know these may sound too simple, but we had a similar experience where infrequent sex had led to overstimulation when opportunity presented itself, and these helped thanks.get me back on track. Best of luck, let me know if it helps.

PS I found the source:
from The Multi-Orgasmic Couple by Mantak and Maneewan Chia and Douglas and Rachel Carlton Abrams M.D.

"When you breathe slowly and deeply, your heart rate decreases, as we discussed above, increased heart rate is one part of orgasm, and breathing quickly signals its approach."

The book was highly recommended to my wife by one of her lovers and it was of great help in that circumstance, but I never finished the rest of the exercises. I must be 6 kinds of dumb.

Anyway you can get the book through Amazon.com. Best of luck.

thank you guys--pixies rocks

so quick question--when most of you have sex with your partner do you slam it home like your dick is on fire or do you go slow? My wife and i have tried the slow and low method to help me and i just never get anything out of it. But the fast and the furious makes me go quick. hmmm maybe i need to try out some more methods. Also has anyone ever had their wife try one of those libido boosting pills like avlimil?????????????

basically, what I do is dive between her legs, latch my mouth on her slit and not come up until she's had at least 2 orgasms. By them she's getting sensitive enough that she can't take much more anyway. Then in answer to your question cabanah, I fuck the hell out of her (usually at her screamed request) until we both cum in a wonderful orgasm.

i like that answer silentsoul---too bad my old lady aint down to have her snatch licked--oh well--that is what happens when you get married--no more pick and choose

Well, You could always whack it one good time, cum, and be done with it, then have your woman arose you again, THEN have sex. Your body'll have to have time to make more cum.

There ya go. Hope it helps.