Steph,

But isn't it like someone blaming an employer for not hiring them when they haven't even submitted a resume?

Funny you mention that. My search for a job and my search for a girlfriend have the same rate of miserable failure.

My resume is invisible to employers. I am invisible to females.

Employers call me up to tease me about a job opening only to find out I was never supposed to be called. Females tease me.

I get rejected by both employers and females for arbitrary reasons at the last minute.

I wrote off that I would probably never have a loving wife a long time ago. It wasn't until a few years ago that I finally accepted that I could be happy all by myself for the rest of my life living in a nice comfortable apartment with my books and my computer and just using my spare time for my hobbies.

Then I meet my ex-fiancee and I was happy for once. When I was 23 I had a good job, a wonderful fiancee and everything I could ever dream of. Before I turned 24, I relaize that it will all be gone one day and in May my fiancee hit me and it finally hit me that I will never again make the kind of money I was used to.

Now I am getting it at both ends. No job, no girl, no money, no hope.

This is the advice thread. Casper, Lixy, Lilith & others have given you fabulous advice. Choosing to argue with them is foolhardy. Why don't you listen to what they're saying instead of disagreeing?

Do you think our lives are walks in the park? I just wake up, take a few deep breaths and hope for a better day.

Sure you're smart but the world doesn't owe you a living. Dude, I've got two degrees and am doing work I'm overqualified for. Shit happens.

Catch 22,

Such negative waves! If you have no cash, how are you able to be on here?

Just over a year ago I was doing my engineering co-op's which is like an internship, but an Engineering Intern is a person with a four year degree, passed his FE exam, and is doing his 5 years worth of work to get his licence. There is no school for engineers like there is for doctors and lawyers. I am now an Engineering Intern and can actualy sign my name as such.

Anyways back on topic, I had that good job and in the summer of 2003 I bought my own computer parts and put together my own computer so that explains why I have a computer.

I moved in with my parents after graduation. Of course, on JUly 1st, 2004 I will be kicked out of their house becuase one year is enough to find a job.

If there is no jobs there for your degree then go to a place where there is.

I live in Southeast Texas and my degree is in Chemical Engineering. Most of the countries chemical plants are between Houston and New Orleans. In fact, other engineers tell me to go here to find a job. I not only look for the jobs in every city newspaper between Houston and New Orleans, but I also look on line. I send about 50 resumes a week alone in emails and another 10 or so by fax.

Another problem is that I went to a small school virtually unknown out side of the immedeate area. And sorry to say but some manager in New York will choose the Texas A&M graduate over the Small Liberal Arts College Graduat simple on the name recognition.

Still seeing the high school bullies. Then learn Kung Fu.

Actually, I do know a smattering of kung fu and I ma jsut not very good at it. Oh I could handle my own in any bar rom brawl, but the first thing you learn in martial arts is that violence is not the answer. You also learn that the authorities don't look kindly upon people who go apeshit and break bones in self defense. It may have been self defense, but you are guilty until proven innocent.

OK I apologize for taking it out on the nice people here. I am not meaning to argue, but I am jsut pointing out that I have tried that very same thing before and it didn't work.

It all just seems so hopeless though. I mean I know I will never have it as good as my parents, but I kind of assumed that I would at least be able to make enough money to where I could live on my own. I never in my life realized that not only would I be working in a pizza place all my life, but get to see the same assholes who made my life miserable in high school be so prosperous.

Sounds like the people that picked on you throughout school have more confidence in you than you do.

Anyways I was going to post this, but I got side tracked.

Basically I was over at her house playing video games. Well we were both on the couch and the TV angle was horrible and she was leaning on the arm of the couch so to get a better viewing angle and becuase well I jsut like to cuddle I laid on her to get a better view. She didn't protest, but this was the thing she was complaining about.

Now the firend she was talking to was her best firend, Kay, who is dating a friend of mine, Larry. Kay basically hates me and loves Larry so I doubt there was any ulterior motive like jelousy in her saying I creeped this girl out.

The whole thing started when Larry and Kay got the idea that I should screw this girl becuase I desperately need to get laid. I told them I don't do meaningless sex anymore becuase using somene just for sex is disrespectful to not only her, but her boyfriend. Well their objection was that Mary's boyfriend Chris won't object and Kay said that if I am half as good as I brag about in bed, then I can satisfy Mary like Chris can't and doesn't every girl deserve at least one good orgasm?

Well anyways recently Chris dumped Mary so he can go screw another girl. It is widely known that Chris is just going to get tired of his new sex toy and come back to Mary. Mary is also having some slight health problems and Chris does not care, and this is sad becuase I am almost a stranger to these people, but I care even more than her supposed soulmate.

Anyways, Mary and I talked about it last nite and she siad that the whole laying on her thing was awkward. I apologized and well she still wants to hang out. I have told her that Chris is just a high school kid and not mature enough for her (which is what everyone says). I told her she could do a lot better and that basically she shuld use this time to date other people. I basically have no further romantic interest in this girl until she has to realize it herself. Besides dropping anymore subtle hints will make me look desperate and chicks don't like hearing "You can do better! You could ahve dated me!"

Wild Irish,

Well yes, and well I have told a story over and over again about how I tried to kill myslef 10 years ago only to be stopped by an ancient goddes of chaos.

The divine vistor basically said that I can't kill myself and by the time I am 30 I will be great and prosperous and do thing to make life better for all mankind.

.Well I have told shrinks this in the hopes that one of them will think I am crazy and I get committed. The tests always comeback that I'm just smarter than the average fool and a little too obsessed with sex and the number 5.

I tell firends, family members and strangers this story and they agree with me. I tell them that I all made it up and they argue with me about that saying it really happened.

I also tell the shrinks that I believe in a story I know I made up and they think I am a super genius at that point.

Did this divine visitor tell you that your greatness and prosperity will be bestowed upon you? Don't get me wrong, I'm not making light of it at all. I don't doubt for a second that you have the potential but greatness is not always a matter of being in the right place at the right time. Believe me, I've ignored life and waited for opportunity to knock long enough before remembering I have a doorbell.

Well there ain't much in the waysof opportunity when you are making pizzas is there?

I will jsut quit that job though. I mean I have only got 6 months left to live so I might as well enjoy it right?

Does the Pope of Discord wear a cooler hat than our Catholic Pope?

I don't have a hat.

Better no hat than a post-hole digger!

What's a post-hole digger? Or do I want to know?

And can I just add that your self-pity is getting maudlin. My uncle will be LUCKY to have six months left to live with cancer. I'm now leaving this thread to deal with my problems. Notice I said DEAL and not WHINE.

I just really don't get that post-hole digger comment.

I just relly love how people just keep asuming there was anyhting I can do.

I know I am not the only one with problems, but dammit you don't know what it is like. At 23 I had it all. Now at 24 I have nothing with no hope of ever getting it back. It seems the only purpose I have ever had for hope was to have it crushed.

I understand your plight and many have offerred what they consider helpful advice. Attitude is everything, in love, in work, in life. If you continue to feel hopeless it ican be a sign of serious depression and I would suggest you seek professional guidance. Remember that life is constantly changing and that what seems hopeless today may seem like nothing more than a hiccup in an otherwise stellar life when you look back from middle age.