im so glad this place exists! you are all so great! i had a bad day today, i was crying a lot cause i got thinking of other things too, but im a big girl now, i dont need creeps like him messing with my head!

Thanks again.

Cowgirltease is right! Repeat what she said!

Someone can't mess with your head if you don't let them. It sounds like you're going to be OK. You know he's a jerk and you know you have to stay away from him.

and yet another blow comes my way. We still have the house to sort out so unfortunatly i have to stay in contact with him until its done.

ive changed my mobile number and made sure he doesnt have it, so he can't get to me that way anymore.

the other day when we were discussing what we are doing about the house & all the stuff he told me he hadn't loved me for a while. I asked how long.
"since i realised I couldnt do what i wanted anymore, for example the day we moved intogether, i was meant to be going away for the week on my bike"

his parents kicked him out. i did not ask him to move in with me!!

So to me that says he hasn't loved me for a very long time. I found a birthday card I got earlier this year from him, "to my baby that i love so much", its all lies. It hurts so much to think that he's used me. Which he has. He wanted me to be this wonderful woman, a tiger in bed, his maid thru the day, he wanted me to like camping and bikes, cars and things like that, but that just isnt me. he knew that when he met me.

It occured to me, I was his first time, I was his first kiss, i was his first girlfriend. No one else had noticed him before me. that was confirmed by his friend. maybe when this 15 year old came along he thought @finally, someone else has shown interest, i dont need her anymore'

the sooner we get the house sorted out the better. i have so little free time these days. I work 6am-6pm 5 days a week, when i get home i sleep til about 1pm, which leaves me 5 hours. The weekends arent good for him cause he's with the wonderful 15 year old. *pukes*

I bet he'll take time out of his scary busy weekend to come get his stuff off the front lawn. That'd be the day I live around someone elses belongings because they'd prefer to spend their time having fun instead of doing something responsible. Tell him "I'm starting to move your stuff out Saturday morning. If you're not here to take it away, it'll be by the curb with a "free" sign in front of it."

And to answer the first part of the thread? Living well is the best revenge, and living without him is a HUGE step in the right direction.

revenge is sometimes sweet~~~~~~~~but usually like "spitting in the rain"~~~ie~~~~pointless, comes back and slaps u on the face, but occaisionally a release!

Little_Miss: When this kind of thing happens, revenge may be tempting. But sometimes it really is not worth it, as he will most likely do something back after you get your revenge, and it will keep going on for weeks, if not months, and will get nasty pretty easily. He may have embarassed you and made a mockery of you (believe me I've been there) and you're probably thinking to yourself "What a silly person I am." But stay that way is my advice. Stay the silly person, make him think he's won, as walking away really is the only option sometimes, although it can be hard to.

Yep some people thrive on making others miserable. :( it's so sad. you gotta love yourself first and foremost.

Yep, what cgt said!!!

I tell my patients that all the time; you can't be true to yourself, unless you think you're worth it, basically!! And, from what I've read, you ARE!! So there!!

DM

i love you ppl!

the house is sorted, he took his stuff the same day i handed in my key.

im still working heaps, but i make up for it at the weekend.

ive seen his wonderful child, she looks just like I did at her age, only smaller. he text me a while ago saying he'd fingered her. i just replied saying give her the middle one for me, lol.

we still talk some times, only when he's heard a romour about me and wants to know if its true or not, who im sleeping with etc.

he got quite vicious and told people i had an incurable disease and couldnt have kids. it was very cruel, but people dont believe him. everyone i meet who knows him thinks he is an idiot, and i was a fool to be with him for so long. they ask why. i can't give them an answer, cause i dont know.

im seeing a few people now *winks* doing not to bad for myself, and he hates it.

any final words in this topic? yes indeed...

Goodbye, John Boy.

Here, Little_Miss: *big warm cuddle* - how's that?

Yay!!!! Good for you!!!!! (big hugs) Me too! I'm movin on to greener pastures. Tired of the games.;)

Good for you Little_Miss - you are much better off without him! Enjoy the other guys and don't be in a hurry to pick any one in particular! :)

Little Miss: New year, new start...new man?

The less time spent thinking about this guy, the better.....His loss.

new year - yay
new start - already underway
new man - several, still lol...

why is it when i dont want a relationship, thats all everyone else wants? lol