Possession Being 9/10ths And All That Horse Shit.

[Lilith]

Are you a possessive person? How do you feel about sharing someone's affection? I am not so much speaking of jealousy as I am of personal preference. Curious as always about your views...

[Sharni]

I am possessive of love and affection....I give my all for Bilbo...i idolise the ground he walks on.. I expect the same...if for some reason he cant give it....then he needs to tell me and we would move on our separate ways

[lexi]

Depends on how you define "sharing affection". If he's sharing with his children or his family, I expect it and am very proud of this sharing and of him for being that close with them.

As for other women.... he can have fun with, flirt with, and be friends with... but genuine affection should be saved for me.

[PantyFanatic]

Originally posted by Lilith
... How do you feel about sharing someone's affection? I am not so much speaking of jealousy as I am of personal preference. ...

Please clairify.:confused:

[Lilith]

Originally posted by pantyfanatic
Please clairify.:confused:

Do you mind sharing your lover's affections with another?

[BigBear57]

I don't see it as posession really. It's more a case of devotion. As Sharni said when I'm involved with someone I give my all and expect the same. So far I haven't seen the same returned. Some days I wonder why I have faith I ever will.

[Oldfart]

Possession implies that you have a right to exclusivity.

It's not a right, but a shared gift.

Like most gifts, if it's shared too widely, it loses it's impact.

My SO and I have friends of various affection, but so long as we

are at the centre, it's OK.

That isn't approval to go out and run riot, just an acceptance that

there are other people on the planet.

[Lilith]

Very inciteful comments. I find it interesting how I can understand a feel similar to almost all the posts at the same time. Exclusivity, and shared genuine affection have been on my mind a lot lately, and I am not sure that they have to be opposing views for me. Although I completely understand why they are for many people.

[Oldfart]

Some people are comforted by absolutes and simplicity.

When things are black and white, judgement and moral

strength are not challenged.

[nikki1979]

i cud share ....... not love of course, but otherwise, and not on a regular basis but evey now n then ......

~nikki~

[WildIrish]

I love my wife dearly. Is there someone else out there that I am capable of loving as well. Yes. Absolutely. But that's not what you're asking.

Can I love them at the same time, in the same way? I honestly don't know. I think I could share my wife's affection if the other person was the kind of person I could never be for her. That wasn't easy for me to say, by the way.

[Vullkan]

The question is a mystery to me....when talking about having your mate sharing their affections for another are we to mean love/sex or a special friendship kind of affection?

If it is of friendship, then I can whole support that. Compassion for another is a special thing that too few of us express to others, and I am just as guilty as the next person.

As to love/sex well that is a difficult matter to think upon. I like to humor myself that I am an open minded person believing anything is possible. Though I suspect, it would matter about the circumstances and understandings of the relationship.

All I know is that for myself, I could not accept either a friendship love or a romantic love for another without my mate's approval. But then I would not likely seek out another person to have feelings for.

[lakritze]

No,Not at all,Jealousy is a disease and besides it has the word lousy in it.heh heh

[Lilith]

Originally posted by WildIrish
I love my wife dearly. Is there someone else out there that I am capable of loving as well. Yes. Absolutely. But that's not what you're asking.

Can I love them at the same time, in the same way? I honestly don't know. I think I could share my wife's affection if the other person was the kind of person I could never be for her. That wasn't easy for me to say, by the way.

Ok, your last statement has certainly struck a chord. I don't think I could love 2 people in the same way but I can love them in different ways, appreciating the differences that exist. I completely understand how hard it is to say you could share if she needed something that you were not. I don't believe in changing people and so it is certainly quite posible I may need/ want something that he is not. Do I want him to change? Never. So it seems plausible that a person like me to be drawn to and share affection with someone who may have those qualities he does not. Hmmm.... damn now you got me thinking too hard:p

[WildIrish]

Originally posted by Lilith
Hmmm.... damn now you got me thinking too hard:p


Good...after all the times you made me think? We're still nowhere near even!

[Steph]

WildIrish makes a good point but I'd argue that you sometimes find friends to take up your partner's "slack". No person can be everything to another, IMHO. For example, I am a news junkie and my guy doesn't know the difference between the Democrats and the Republicans. I have many political junkie friends for discussions on political affairs and the like.

That's probably not exactly what WI was getting at but it was my first thought when I read it.

[Irish]

Originally posted by lakritze
No,Not at all,Jealousy is a disease and besides it has the word lousy in it.heh heh
I guess that I'm efflected(sp?) with that disease!I'm EXTREMELY possessive. Irish
P.S.Different strokes,for different folks!

[Summer]

I CAN NOT SHARE! but if I needed to I would. ;)

[celticangel]

I have different types of love and affection for all the people I fell are important to me~~~~~~but what I feel for Dm is a one only, all encompassing, mind blowing, satisfying love~~~~that I value with all my soul~~~~~~~~~~~wouldn't share that with anyone!

[Scarecrow]

Love is a many splendor thing, to share love is to spread joy, love thy neighbor, peace on Earth and good will to all.


What was the question?

[quisath]

This is Deep ................... I give All of me and I expect the same. I guess that explains why I'm alone right now. I haven't found that one special person that knows how to be on equal ground with me. Oh well. :)

[WildIrish]

Originally posted by celticangel
I have different types of love and affection for all the people I fell are important to me~~~~~~but what I feel for Dm is a one only, all encompassing, mind blowing, satisfying love~~~~that I value with all my soul~~~~~~~~~~~wouldn't share that with anyone!


You DO know that dm also likes sheep, right? ha ha

[Oldfart]

Ewe Baaaaaahstard, WildIrish.

Flock off!!

[Irish]

WildIrish---The question is---Does he SHARE his sheep? Irish

[dm383]

Originally posted by WildIrish
You DO know that dm also likes sheep, right? ha ha


I like TIGERS, too!!


WildIrish---The question is---Does he SHARE his sheep? Irish


Got a spare few here I can send over if you need 'em, Irish!! ;)

DM

[Irish]

dm383---Thanks for the offer,but I think I'll decline.(Altho they
probably,lookbetter than some of the women,that my riding
buddies,have brought home,in the "old days")I read someplace,
that most,venereal diseases,came from sex with animals.I missed
them,so far,& I figure-Why tempt fate? Irish
P.S. The song,titled,something like,The girls always look better at
Closing Time.,comes to mind.