Okay here is the scenario--My wife seems to have developed a very low libido since we have been together. When we first got together we were like rabbits and i loved it. She started talking about bringing another woman into our bed and just very fun and experimental. AFter she had our first child it got to the point if i was lucky to have sex once a week. Right after my second was born though she got all kinds of horny--we were back to watching porn together--she was giving me head again which never happens and now once again --nothing. I try to talk to her about it but she thinks i am pressuring her. I have tried everything i can think of and the only thing that i can se that changed would be that she is using the new birth control patch--does that affect libido at all? The other thing is she never seeems to want to touch me and let me touch her--she always seems to shy away when i want to finger her or eat her out --she just wants me to stick it in and then gets wierd if i try to make myself last--like she is over it. I am just horny and confused and want to be better for her.